(Excerpt from 2012 Winter Banana Moments quarterly periodical)
The article encourages parents to offer intelligent reactions to their child’s misdeeds because physical aggression only begets more physical aggression. An example offered is a toddler who drops her dad’s toothbrush into the toilet. Explain why it is not a good thing to do, and asking the child to think about how her Dad would feel about putting it in his mouth afterwards is a good way to handle it.
What appeals to me about the message of this article is that it encourages us to have confidence in the power of our child’s mind and to promote emotional intelligence.
But this doesn’t mean that spanking is always ineffective.
The bigger question is: how are you leading your child?
If spanking is our way of communicating anger, frustration or fear about our child’s conduct, or about a situation we want to control then we are teaching the wrong lesson.
When our children are given a birth to adjust their thinking and conduct, and then stand corrected; when we exude confidence in their ability to understand why certain behavior is not good for self and others, then it is possible to truly instill discipline.
The word “discipline” is a noun derived from the Latin word “disciplina”, teaching or learning. In Webster’s Dictionary the first definition is “punishment” . The remaining definitions pertain to instruction, self control and a system of rules governing conduct.
Today more than ever our children need this “discipline”or self-control. This moral compass serves as an internal guidance system, and is the basis for personal security in a cyber-powered world that seeks to manipulate and exploit the individual.
For more information about how to bond with your child around cyber-safe discipline, go to: A Parents’ Guide to Cyber Citizenship