Tuesday, March 1st, 2016
What do tech-savvy teens need from parents? They need parents to provide a safe place where they can talk about the real pressures and insecurities they face.
Monday, November 2nd, 2015
According to a recent report from Aleteia, at the fall annual assembly of U.S. Catholic Bishops in Baltimore, scheduled for November 16-19, there will be a vote to issue a general statement about pornography as a “pastoral crisis”. The purpose of this general statement is to educate clergy, parents and young people about this crisis for families and society.
Friday, October 9th, 2015
While the drive to fit in and feel connected is prominent during adolescent years anyway, this drive is intensified and can be used against them in very powerful ways with mobile devices and apps like Twitter, Instagram and SnapChat. Cooper Anderson sums up beautifully how being 13 is different today with social media: “There are so many more witnesses.” When we aim to have a relationship with a crowd, our life focus centers on pleasing people which inspires great anxiety. The simple truth is that self worth is first realized from within and then expressed outwardly; it is that inner knowing that we were created uniquely for a purpose that cannot be found by consulting the crowd or measured in worldly terms (sex, approval ratings, and money)...
Monday, September 7th, 2015
As a mom of two grown sons, I left the corporate world in 2004 when my youngest son hit middle school to better understand what it means to grow up in a cyber-powered world and the new demands on parents. My mother heart wanted to know how we are supposed to provide protective cover for youth who have literally have …
Saturday, September 5th, 2015
A recent survey commissioned by Intego, an iOS internet security technology company for home and business, reported 49 percent of parents (of children aged seven to 17) say that their child’s use of mobile devices interferes with bed time, school work or meal time, and for 27 percent of parents, managing screen time is a losing battle.
Monday, July 6th, 2015
My two cents
The most important thing a parent can do for the modern child is to shed their own fearful thoughts about being in control of our children’s lives on and off line. In the hyper-connected world it is easy to believe things that are not true and focus on things that don’t matter. And for parents and children, one of the untruth’s is this notion that parents have control over their own children.…
Tuesday, May 26th, 2015
In this hyper-connected world, our aim must be to create a home environment that corrects error or poor choices with compassion and respect for all individuals involved. Parents often confuse correcting their child, with judging them – which is fear expressing condemnation. How does your family culture value the individual? Is it safe to express a dissenting point of view? Are the quirks and foibles of your children ridiculed or explored and treasured? How is your family culture preparing your child to deal with groupthink in the world?
Monday, May 25th, 2015
What distinguishes us and our children from murderers, criminals, addicts, pedophiles, bullies, sexual objects, and victims? Honestly, I have come to appreciate that it is our opinion informed by our own chosen faith which is an intensely personal perception of our spiritual identity. What you choose to believe about your core identity influences your personal response to the power and control issues in the world (which are fueled by fear).
Wednesday, May 20th, 2015
...parents experience a type of malware that evolves from a traditional parenting paradigm that says with good parenting the risky traps and adult issues will not beset our children. We are judging ourselves and other parents by the issues or successes of our youth, which further reinforces shame and fear and killing open communication about what is happening on and off line at home. Some of the lies, the malware, that torment parent hearts and minds include:
Monday, March 2nd, 2015
So in order to provide protective cover for the teen who may be confused between trust (which is always verifiable among people) and privacy (which is private stuff you keep from the world not from your parents), parents need to position themselves as trusted resource to help teens learn how to be in control and resist attempts to manipulate and dupe them into giving up personal security by engaging in conversations and conduct that is exploitative or addictive. In this way you can stay current with the texting codes. This means that your teen should expect random checks on cyber communications.