Monday, July 13th, 2015
The victims of this pedophile need to know that their experience with him was a lie that became a real experience and it is only true for them, their identity, if they allow it to be so in their own minds. (Romans 12:2). I pray that the remaining victims are found and are able to receive closure and a measure of peace from knowing that nothing can separate them from the love that comes from the heart of God: Divine Love.
Monday, June 15th, 2015
Texting apps are web-based and photo-centric and the barriers to access are very low as the innovation makes it easier for people to assemble and authenticate networks. And cyber connectivity is easy to keep it secret from parents. The challenge with texting apps is that it also lowers inhibition – leaving the door wide open for gossip, sexting (inappropriate photos) and bullying. Children witnessing or experiencing these assaults on individuals feel shame, guilt or fear and will be motivated to keep it from you. Below are a couple of considerations for parents to maintain an appropriate and instructive presence in their child’s texting life:
Monday, June 1st, 2015
Parents are very comfortable posting pictures of kids in their social media which means that there is potential risk for overexposure on-line. A recent study by Nominet found that the average parent posts over 200 pictures of their children per year without checking privacy settings; by the time a child is five, on average 1,000 photos of them have been shared on line. This study found that half of the parents did not realize that the social media site owns the rights to use their child’s photos. It is a reminder that parents too are vulnerable to the seductive influence of sharing and liking posts in ways that could compromise their child’s security.
Monday, December 22nd, 2014
Christmas is a time when many families are making new investments in devices and apps. According to Google, the top searches for Christmas gift purchases are devices and game consoles, followed by wearable gear like FitBit. The most common problem with these new gadgets is the improper disposal or redeployment of the old ones leaving your personal information vulnerable to thieves and bad actors. According to cyber safety experts, deleting files is not enough.
Monday, December 1st, 2014
Christmas is on the horizon, and many parents are faced with important decisions about the purchase of devices for children who are always very eager to jump into the cyber social realm of apps and games long before many parents are confident about managing their on-line experiences. No doubt the management of content with the diversity of devices and apps can feel confusing and overwhelming at times. Every device and every app has its own arrangement of security functions and permissions to navigate, and the stakes are high for very young hearts and minds who also need to learn how to establish healthy boundaries using this technology.
Monday, November 10th, 2014
If you have a teen, you know all too well how mobile connectivity intensifies the power crisis for teens and parents. It is not new that teens feel like their parents are irrelevant, and it is true that our children’s adolescence is informing them radically differently than that of our own. Modern youth are conditioned differently for authority. Rather than as a matter of position or title, authority is perceived more as a relational experience of feeling validated in a world interconnected without interference from hierarchy, time or distance.
Some of the ways in which youth may be unduly influenced in this hyper networked environment include the following perceptions:
Monday, October 13th, 2014
It helps to be clear that the conversation with your child is not about you; it is about the child learning how to take command over their own life and you are the primary teacher. You may draw upon your own experience, but do not allow the conversation to digress into your adolescence and childhood. The idea here is to encourage your child to seek conversations with you about how to apply virtues in their life so you can encourage them to seek Wisdom (James 1:5) from the Lord and impart your wisdom.
Thursday, July 10th, 2014
The most important thing a parent can do is become the “trusted advisor” so that your child’s cyber-powered communities do not become a single point of reference for life. Here are some tips.
Monday, May 19th, 2014
Parents are feeling pressure to post pictures and publish details of their child’s early life on line, and as the first generation of digital natives (born after 1990 who cannot imagine the world without WWW connectivity) becoming parents, it will be interesting to see how this decision is handled. A recent New York Times article about the pros …
Monday, April 14th, 2014
Social media and texting has become such a normal part of daily life it can easily be perceived as a right, rather than a privilege. The minimum age for use of social media has been set at 13 years, but it is not possible for media sites like Facebook, Instagram, SnapChat and Twitter to enforce that users are truthful about entering their date of birth. Kids at younger ages are tempted to get into the social media mix, which is a concern because in the cyber realm many adult issues are exposed to very young hearts and minds.