Preparing children to love and be loved in the social network

Monday, May 26th, 2014
This past weekend presented very disturbing news about a young man, Elliot Rodgers, who gunned down six people in Santa Barbara over the weekend. From the news reports, it is clear that this young man was hyper-focused on seeking validation from the social network - which can leave a person feeling isolated, abandoned and angry.

Underage use of social media: How parents can plan for it

Monday, April 14th, 2014
Social media and texting has become such a normal part of daily life it can easily be perceived as a right, rather than a privilege. The minimum age for use of social media has been set at 13 years, but it is not possible for media sites like Facebook, Instagram, SnapChat and Twitter to enforce that users are truthful about entering their date of birth. Kids at younger ages are tempted to get into the social media mix, which is a concern because in the cyber realm many adult issues are exposed to very young hearts and minds.

The top 3 things parents can do to shield their child from cyberbullying

Monday, March 31st, 2014
Bullying is learned behavior. Children do as we do, and so I have learned that if our own personal strategy is to use intimidation and anger in response to bad customer service or in reaction to the things that family members do that are annoying or disruptive, we in turn are disturbing the peace, not contributing to it.

How your child’s social media posts can hurt you and what to do about it

Monday, March 10th, 2014
The harsh reality that cyber communications are not private is a challenging concept to get across. We don’t see the open, boundary-less nature of the network communications; we don’t normally calculate the myriad of circumstances that conspire to share information intended only to a few.

Worrying and caring: Why they are not the same thing

Sunday, March 2nd, 2014
So let us be clear. Worrying is not the same thing as caring because it is the product of fear, not love. And worry is in my opinion the most toxic temptation of the modern parent given the truly perilous network culture that encompasses the modern childhood.

Behold your own beauty by taking ownership of your mind

Sunday, March 2nd, 2014
We must stand firm daily in what we enjoy and embrace to be beautiful. We live in a culture constantly presenting its views and perspectives of what beauty is. We are bombarded through social media, magazines, peers, with their definitions/opinions of beauty, perspectives often driven by greed and power. These can distract us from experiencing what we truly find to be beautiful.

Why the modern child and parent need mentors

Sunday, March 2nd, 2014
Over the past decade I have come to appreciate that one of the most important things parents can do for the sake of our children and ourselves is to put aside shame. Let us consider the things that show up in dramatic, cyber-powered fashion that impart shame:

‘Pocket Mommy’ and your child’s imagination can quell anxiety

Sunday, March 2nd, 2014
Opportunities to impart wisdom to our children involve learning on both the part of the parent and the child, which involves a change in the heart and mind of the individual. It cannot be manipulated or forced. To me this is a sacred process that requires an element of care, or what I call “analog” communication – a passion for your child’s liberty to think for himself.

How to help kids prevent and recover from risks involving drugs, sex and bullying

Wednesday, November 13th, 2013
...Whether your child has suffered trauma from bullying, being exploited sexually, failed relationships due to cyber-powered gossip and betrayal, or suffers from addiction to drugs, porn or devices and apps including video gamming, our challenge as parents is to respond to the human condition with a heart at peace so that your child can believe you are a trustworthy resource for prevention and recovery support. Parents who criticize others outted for risky choices and conduct (such as sexting or drug abuse), for example, send strong signals to your own child that is is not safe to talk about what is happening in their world on and off line without fear of retribution; and then it is not possible to impart wisdom. It is not possible to provide the prevention and recovery support kids need from parents for all the experiences in their life that make up critical decision points impacting their personal security. So I have come to appreciate the following clarification for the modern parent when it comes to understanding our role in prevention and recovery for all of the risks life presents our children: Prevention and recovery are the arms of God’s love. It is a big bear hug that wraps our compassion around the person who is our child; it is our passion for our child to be free from the bondage of any relationship that keeps them aimed far away from the heart of a healthy relationship with God and family. The big question for the modern parent is: what do you believe about the human condition? Really, how do you perceive sin? Is it a judgy thing that does not apply to you and your child? Do you believe that your sincere parenting will guarantee your child will be safe from the pitfalls? How do you understand the mighty, cyber-powered pressures of the world that intensify bullying, addiction and exploitation?

Succeeding in life: Overcoming distraction and learning challenges

Wednesday, November 13th, 2013

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Our learning expert, Bonnie Terry, has developed a phenomenal consulting practice around helping kids with ADD/ADHD issues become successful at school. Terry’s book, Family Strategies for ADD/ADHD Kids, explains the possibility of overcoming distraction which is increasingly commonplace in our modern lifestyles. Children with ADD/ADHD are considered to be especially vulnerable to distraction, having difficulty concentrating on a task at hand and

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About Joanna Jullien

Joanna Jullien

Joanna (jullien@surewest.net) and her husband have raised two sons in Roseville, CA. She has a degree from U.C. Berkeley in Social Anthropology (corporate culture). Her honors thesis was awarded the Kroeber Prize and funding from National Science Foundation grant. Joanna writes to help parents with the modern-day leadership challenges of raising children. She is a contributing writer for The Granite Bay View, the Press Tribune, the Sacramento Examiner, and editor of Banana Moments.

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