Back-to-School: How to identify and talk about new digital hangouts

Monday, August 24th, 2015
Back-to-school is a time of new experiences and new peer groups, on and off-line. Kids will be exposed to new apps and on-line hangouts, where there is always the risk of bad actors taking advantage of vulnerable youth. And banning kids from mobile connectivity and social media is not going to keep them safe, because they can keep their access a secret – making them even more vulnerable. There will be drama. It is a part of growing up. But certain apps truly stir drama into cyberbully ...

Social media etiquette for parents

Monday, April 21st, 2014
One of the most important things parents can do to keep their children cyber-safe is maintain a relationship defined by open communication, which requires a culture of transparency and respect for personal boundaries. And yet a lack of parenting social media etiquette discourages open communication, and can encourage your child to create secret, alternative media presence using alter egos and different apps. Below are a top ten list of parenting social media miss-steps which the Daily Mail recently published.

Help your child personalize social media according to their values

Monday, March 3rd, 2014
Indeed, parents have the duty and authority for protective cover of minor children. Yet the crux of the matter remains: how to position yourself as the parent who is trustworthy and relevant in order to cultivate the open communication and appropriate monitoring regarding something that is so personal and sensitive during the adolescent years? How can we be present in our children’s on-line lives in a way that is supportive (backstage) and not oppressive? Make yourself useful.

Behold your own beauty by taking ownership of your mind

Sunday, March 2nd, 2014
We must stand firm daily in what we enjoy and embrace to be beautiful. We live in a culture constantly presenting its views and perspectives of what beauty is. We are bombarded through social media, magazines, peers, with their definitions/opinions of beauty, perspectives often driven by greed and power. These can distract us from experiencing what we truly find to be beautiful.

Technology etiquette and your child’s mental health

Monday, August 5th, 2013
...In the network culture, hierarchical structure is de-emphasized and formal authority carries less gravitas. The world is indeed flat. And by the same token, children are craving authenticity from adults. So is it really necessary to address elders as Mr. and Mrs.? Not necessarily. It depends upon whether your children look them in the eye and are courteous; and by the same token how the adults treat children. Respect goes both ways, and the adults are the ones who are the “alpha” position; so if we are not modeling and expecting respect in our homes, neighborhoods, workplaces, and in our politics, then it is not surprising that we have disrespectful children. ...My philosophy and experience tells me that if children are disrespectful, they are reflecting how they are treated and/or how they view themselves.

The value of honesty for children in the social network

Monday, February 25th, 2013
It is easy to be honest when the truth suits us, but when we want to avoid the truth (like a poor choice bringing shame, or a person’s reaction to the truth), or a desire to manipulate others to submit to our own agenda, then we are all tempted to lie.

Why forgiveness matters for our children

Sunday, January 24th, 2010

 

bananas-11“To forgive is indeed the best form of self-interest since anger, resentment, and revenge are corrosive of that ‘summum bonum,’ the greatest good.”  – Bishop Desmond Tutu

 

It is easy to become offended. 

Perhaps your husband drinks too much, your child lied to you about something very important, whenever your wife does the laundry you have pink underwear, or a stranger attacked you. 

Forgiveness, so often misunderstood and underutilized, can strengthen family bonds and demonstrate …

Parents! Seek information, not confessions.

Monday, September 7th, 2009

 

I have experienced it. It can be an automatic response to defend our children if they are accused of something we believe they did not or could not do, or that causes us to fear judgment from others, or our child is being treated unfairly.

The techniques now being encouraged in law enforcement would serve parents and children as well.  In a recent story, “Spotting Lies: Listen, Don’t Look”, offers great perspective. The premise is …

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About Joanna Jullien

Joanna Jullien

Joanna (jullien@surewest.net) and her husband have raised two sons in Roseville, CA. She has a degree from U.C. Berkeley in Social Anthropology (corporate culture). Her honors thesis was awarded the Kroeber Prize and funding from National Science Foundation grant. Joanna writes to help parents with the modern-day leadership challenges of raising children. She is a contributing writer for The Granite Bay View, the Press Tribune, the Sacramento Examiner, and editor of Banana Moments.

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