I trust this finds everyone off to a great start to the New Year! 2013 brings more changes to Banana Moments, which include 1) a monthly news round up edition (like this one) published between the quarterly editions, and 2) the quarterly editions will be web-based. No more PDFs. (Note: The 2013 winter edition of Banana Moments: Family Business Quarterly is coming out at the end of February.)
This past year we have witnessed more extreme anxiety and behavior as we concluded the year with the tragic school shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, CT.
No doubt this will be a year to strike a balance between what we must expect of ourselves as individuals and a society. There will be passionate cries for action whether it be more gun control and parental control with regard to the unthinkable things our children can do. And yet it remains that the one thing every parent and child can do is hold ourselves accountable for our individual thoughts and actions. The bully culture encourages us to believe that the power is not within – it is with other people. So it tells us we need to be more controlling of others’ actions, or that we are powerless to resist the angry urges to “get even” when we feel wronged. It is quite simply, giving power to insecurity. There can be no peace when we act out of anxiety or fear.
(For more about confronting the bully with genuine authority, go to The Authority In Me.)
Extreme parenting has become a hot topic, as over-functioning parents and the entitlement culture collide. The first wave of digital natives, young adult children today, struggle to become established in their own right as households.
On the cyber trend front, we have seen the migration from Facebook, which is text and status oriented content, into social media sites that are image and video centric, capturing the moment and the thought of the “nano-second” with applications like Tumblr, Instagram, and Snapchat.
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Below are links to some of the articles reflecting the new demands on parents to address trends in cyber technology and youth culture from the past year.
Parenting digital natives
- This is as good as it gets: Parenting for 2013 & beyond
- Parenting in the age of entitlement
- Parents over sharing in the network
- The Reason for the season is the secret to order and peace at home
- Hip Hop Congress of Auburn features new video as ‘wake up call’ for parents
- Tips for ensuring screen downtime
- Rocklin mom and author explains how digital natives are misunderstood
- How to make age-appropriate use of mobile phones
- Don’t allow technology to replace real relationships
- Instagram’s appeal to teens should peak parent interest
- How ‘the leader in me’ reinforces good cyber citizenship
- Cyber safety is not about technology and predators
- Teaching kids to be money-smart earners in the net
- Texting and bonding with your teen in the network
Confronting the bully culture
- Why faith matters in confronting the bully
- Loving children who are different and cyber security
- Emotional intelligence and network pressure
- The role of parents and educators in confronting the bully
- Helping children deal with adult bullies
- School shooting prevention: Controlling the state of our own hearts and minds
- Newtown massacre: How can we comfort the children?
- Social media makes it easy to bond with bullies: Dating advice
- On-line gaming and the bully culture: What lessons are the children learning?
- ACLU attorney speaks against zero tolerance
- What girls can learn from Jennifer Livingston’s viral call to confront the bully
- Parents also critical to bully prevention says EUSD superintendent
- Back to school cyber bully prevention: What parents need to know
Social media and children
- Exploring the ‘three realms of security’ with your child
- Putting on the cyber brakes: Seek first to understand
- What 2012 teaches us about cyber safety for the family
- Create a “family approved” app list
- Wii U offers centralized access to WWW entertainment and parental controls
- Contemplate to educate in the network
Identity in the network
- It’s okay to be different in the network
- Identity crisis in the network: Employers need to experience consistency
- Grooming digital natives to limit the power they give up
Drug and alcohol culture
- Placer county teens support fines for adults who promote underage drinking
- Rocklin school board endorses social host ordinance proposal
- How the world’s smallest safe promotes cyber safety: The Locking Cap
About Banana Moments
In 2004, I stopped working outside the home to focus on family and community business. The advent of the Internet and the mobile phone in the home cause me concern and keen interest in the dynamic of family relations, in particular the parent-child bond. So I started writing and researching various topics of concern in order to support family life in a cyber-powered world. “Banana Moments” is the name I gave the rewards, surprises and challenges of raising kids in the network culture; it is the title of my journalism.
- The key is relating parental authority in a world that empowers children at young ages with access to information and people.
- There is a tremendous opportunity to form more rich and authentic bonds between the parent and child in this network environment.
- And because the cyber powered world is dynamic, and the convergence of technology is so rapid, it is important to remain informed about current trends in youth culture, popular culture and technology.
In 2006, Banana Moments quarterly was issued as a PDF. Starting this year it will be presented in a web-enabled format and supplemented with monthly updates based upon articles produced for the Sacramento Cyber Safety Examiner on Examiner.com and CyberParenting Topics for The Family Morning Show on The Fish 103.9FM, and podcasts of Three Moms and a Mike, a talk show which addresses the social issues facing children and families.
Love and blessings,
Joanna Jullien is an author and speaker on strengthening the parent-child relationship in a cyber powered world. She is the author of The Authority In Me: The Power of Family Life in the Network Culture, produces The Sacramento Cyber Safety Examiner column on Examiner.com, and is the CyberParenting advisor on The Fish 103.9FM, Tuesdays.