My two cents
Over the past few months, more headlines have surfaced about parents publicly shaming their children by posting images on line about their wrong doing and discipline. What this indicates to me is a misunderstanding about what it means to discipline, which is to inspire others to learn by your own example, counsel and instruction.
When discipline becomes a crime and punishment mentality, then shame is involved and when shame is involved the lesson learned is that the crime is to get caught, and/or that there is no hope for a future. In order for discipline to be liberating, as course correction that inspires a transformation of thoughts and habits, there must be a clean slate so there can be an ongoing dialogue about experiences and the lessons your child’s childhood or teenagehood are teaching them. Without open communication, it is not possible to impart your wisdom; and without wisdom our children are at risk for believing things that are not true, and focusing on things that don’t really matter in the social network and in the flesh…Read more: Signs you may be a cyberbully parent…
Joanna Jullien is an author, educator and speaker on strengthening the parent-child relationship in a cyber powered world. She is a mother of two grown sons, the author of The Authority In Me: The Power of Family Life in the Network Culture, produces The Sacramento Cyber Safety Examiner column on Examiner.com, and is the CyberParenting advisor on The Fish 103.9FM. Her new book, A Google World in the Garden of Eden: Five Family-Safe Strategies for Texting and Social Media is now available for PC and all eReader formats including Kindle, Nook, iPad.
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As the Sacramento Cyber Safety Examiner, my personal mission is to educate and inspire parents from all walks of life and social settings to realize their inherent authority to govern the home and educate the child about their own power; the personal power that comes from the spiritual resilience of your chosen faith. And so I write for Examiner.com to express the passion of my mother heart to a diverse audience.