The need for Banana Moments Foundation and Fresh Start parenting
This cannot be accomplished with a fearful heart. And yet it remains for most parents that overcoming fear is one of the greatest challenges because mobile connectivity introduces so much evil into the cyber social realms that we and our children navigate. The headlines are full of examples from the Slenderman meme who inspired two 12-year-olds to attempt to brutally murder a fellow classmate by stabbing her multiple times, to extreme drug and alcohol abuse glorified as the new norm, and cyber-powered bullying that the CDC has called a “new form of violence” leaving many children traumatized and some so hopeless to the point of suicide. The internet-world can easily convince parents that their children are facing risks in the social network that will certainly destroy or harm them. And by the same token, the network culture can convince children that everything they need to know they can simply google – such that the role of the parent, teacher, coach and the benevolent deity, essential to impart wisdom, is pushed to the side. Truly there is nothing new under the sun.
The modern child seeks authentic leadership
- Human nature is the same as it ever was, and innovation finds new ways to express and experience the best and the worst of the world.
The blessing of this cyber power crisis is that the new demand on the modern parent is to deepen the relationship with their children in ways that go beyond that of previous generations. The spiritual authenticity required to effectively parent the free will of a child today I see as the good hidden by the evil; the opportunity nested in the threat; the victory to snatch from the jaws of defeat made possible by the power of the one mustard seed of faith that spawned a free society: God’s sovereignty and free will governing the life of the individual.
- Children need parents to be confident teachers for living a liberated life so they can recognize and ignore evil, and stand their ground.
This concept was crystallized for me last month by Fr. Emmerich Vogt, a Dominican priest visiting St. Joseph Marello Catholic Parish in Granite Bay, California. He shared his insights about the Christian faith and what intrigued me is the idea that God chose not to eliminate evil, but rather to pull good from evil. Citing examples of saints whose backgrounds involved perpetrating or being victims of evil, Vogt makes the case for God’s strategy to overcome evil with good – which is the hope for humanity. “The problem with many Christians”, Vogt declares, “Is that they fail to see the good in other cultures and so there is divisiveness.” This is true for parenthood and the network culture. There is a risk of not seeing the good in the use of the technology by fearfully seeking to micromanage it and abdicating genuine authority to govern the home, not the device and the child.
- To this end, Banana Moments Foundation was founded to inform and inspire parents as household executives about their inherent capacity to lead children to be cyber-safe citizens.
This means that it is not enough to set house rules and enforce consequences. There must be a bonding with children around the truth that choosing to obey boundaries that keep you free from undue influence is the only way to be free; this bonding inspires every individual to think for himself and use free will wisely and is communicated through a family culture of transparency and individual accountability. Accordingly, Fresh Start training teaches parents the fundamentals of creating a family culture to function more like a sanctuary from the cyber social storm, wherein children feel safe to come home and talk about their experiences on and off line, and then parents can impart wisdom and instill discipline.
Help transform the parenting culture to meet the new demands of the network culture
Your donation will help promote the Fresh Start training to more communities and expand the marketing capacity to freely share Banana Moments monthly and quarterly updates that educate parents about youth and cyber trends and offer insights and perspectives to strengthen the parent-child bond.
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$25.00 –Your thank you gift: The Authority In Me: The Power of Family Life in the Network Culture (PDF)
$50.00 –Your thank you gift: Fresh Start Family Culture Builder for Household Executives (PDF)
$100 — Your thank you gift: A Google World in the Garden of Eden – Five Family-Safe Strategies for Texting and Social Media (PDF) and Fresh Start Family Culture Builder for Household Executives (PDF)
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