Patience – the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset. Choosing to respond with patience helps us wait on the Lord so we can be guided by His divine love and wisdom – especially when we are troubled or anxious.
The tap and click tablet, internet-enabled world conditions us for instant gratification. How many of us become impatient when an application takes too long to process a command? Yep. Thirty seconds can feel like an eternity. In the cyber social realm impulsivity, a lack of patience, can lead to aggressiveness and a bully climate when our personal expectations are not immediately met or when we are displeased or disturbed. Let’s face it, in a “me”-centered world there can be no peace.
“A person with good sense is patient, and it is to his credit that he overlooks an offense.” Proverbs 19:11
Patience is a virtue for learning executives
It is true that we cannot give our children what we do not possess. Our primary job as parents is to help children reconnect with the divinity within and choose to be governed by their own relationship with the Lord. That is why patience is a virtue (choosing to do good), which is best taught by doing. So when your child becomes hostile, angry or upset about things big or small, this is a teachable moment for you to lead. Take a deep breath, and lead with your faith as the primary app for the heart and mind.
• Explain to your child that their feelings are real and they have the power to choose how to respond to those feelings. When you allow your feelings to tell you what to do next, you are not allowing your relationship with the Lord to inform you and bless you. Praying about the things that disturb or excite you helps cultivate patience.
• It is helpful to consider that you have the power to accept things that are out of your control and trust that God knows all about it.
• Have your child make a list of the things that make them feel like they don’t have control, and think about the things that they do have control over – which is what to believe and how to respond with choices to do good or not good.
Consider that when our aim is to empower children with understanding how to apply their faith (i.e., trust in God for all things) as the primary app for the heart and mind, our children can be encouraged to choose to become self-governing and exercise the power of self-restraint in response to the things that happen to disturb our peace, such as unmet expectations, bullying and exploitation. By our faith in who God is (our source of personal liberty) and what He has done for us (delegated the divine authority to overcome the world through forgiveness), it is possible to choose to hold people accountable with a merciful heart. In this way, patience establishes resiliency to remain secure in a cyber social realm that can be very turbulent and inspire impulsiveness which further disturbs the peace.
Joanna Jullien is an author, educator and speaker on strengthening the parent-child relationship in a cyber powered world. She is a mother of two grown sons, the author of The Authority In Me: The Power of Family Life in the Network Culture, produces The Sacramento Cyber Safety Examiner column on Examiner.com, and is the CyberParenting advisor on The Fish 103.9FM. Her new book, A Google World in the Garden of Eden: Five Family-Safe Strategies for Texting and Social Media is now available for PC and all eReader formats including Kindle, Nook, iPad.
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