Archive for the 'Substance abuse prevention' Category

Balancing emotion and reason: Taming the mama and papa bear

Thursday, June 12th, 2014
In an article via Mamapedia, a blogger mom, Jenny Ball, expresses her simmering rage in an open letter to an Amway lady who deeply offended her teenage son while he concluded a shift at his supermarket job. The lady was a customer and as he finished bagging her groceries, she made a comment about his acne and then suggested she had a product that would take care of it and left him her card. Personally I recognized this mama bear that surfaced in this blog post. That mama bear lives in me too; and as a mom reformed I routinely redirect that mama bear to her cage. And so I could also appreciate the considerable restraint this angry mom demonstrated not to publish the woman’s contact information as she delivered a diatribe that ascribed misguided and exploitive motives on the part of the Amway lady in question. This mother heart knew intimately how painful that Amway exchange was for her son, which according to her was a kick in the gut to someone who already knew he had an acne problem and was working on it.

Worrying and caring: Why they are not the same thing

Sunday, March 2nd, 2014
So let us be clear. Worrying is not the same thing as caring because it is the product of fear, not love. And worry is in my opinion the most toxic temptation of the modern parent given the truly perilous network culture that encompasses the modern childhood.

Why the modern child and parent need mentors

Sunday, March 2nd, 2014
Over the past decade I have come to appreciate that one of the most important things parents can do for the sake of our children and ourselves is to put aside shame. Let us consider the things that show up in dramatic, cyber-powered fashion that impart shame:

The practical value of virtues for the modern child

Sunday, March 2nd, 2014
More dramatic than the cultural revolution of the 1960’s and 1970’s, the advent of internet and mobile connectivity inspired a radical power crisis for the individual and for the family. In a world, flattened and boundary-less by cyber communications, the opportunity is ripe for the parent-child bond to be strengthened and deepened as a “new norm” beyond that of previous generations. Youth today cannot imagine the world without internet connectivity. They are conditioned for authority differently. The value of hierarchical authority is less prominent; and for this breed of human, authority is a relational experience.

The lessons of parenthood in the network culture

Sunday, March 2nd, 2014
While it can be said that the parents of previous generations would recognize some of the parenting concerns of our time (power and control issues), there remains the fact that every generation is faced with a different set of circumstances involving innovation (for example, what would parenting be like today without the automobile?) and that a reasonably happy parenthood remains a challenge that requires individuals to engage with a heart and mind willing to learn how to express discipline as love language for you and your child.

How to help your child avoid internet addiction

Monday, February 3rd, 2014
With the new emerging norm being everyone connected to the network 24 hours a day, the potential for addiction, which is defined as those things that steal our attention and seduce us into pathological and unhealthy relationships, can become a real experience for children. In a NY Daily News article, psychiatrists are reporting that children as young as two years old are showing symptoms of becoming addicted to devices, as parents are reaching out for help with kids who become obsessed with the devices and are extremely distressed and inconsolable when they are taken away.

Commercialism in the social network has no boundaries

Sunday, December 1st, 2013
...A recent report from the UK sites ads for electronic cigarettes targeting teens in social media are attempting to convince them that e-cigarettes are safe and the way to be cool, like celebrities. And while electronic delivery of nicotine might be a safer alternative than tobacco for smokers, the profit incentive knows no boundaries as this “safety message” is delivered to our youth. This is how a kernel of truth is twisted into a lie...

How to help kids prevent and recover from risks involving drugs, sex and bullying

Wednesday, November 13th, 2013
...Whether your child has suffered trauma from bullying, being exploited sexually, failed relationships due to cyber-powered gossip and betrayal, or suffers from addiction to drugs, porn or devices and apps including video gamming, our challenge as parents is to respond to the human condition with a heart at peace so that your child can believe you are a trustworthy resource for prevention and recovery support. Parents who criticize others outted for risky choices and conduct (such as sexting or drug abuse), for example, send strong signals to your own child that is is not safe to talk about what is happening in their world on and off line without fear of retribution; and then it is not possible to impart wisdom. It is not possible to provide the prevention and recovery support kids need from parents for all the experiences in their life that make up critical decision points impacting their personal security. So I have come to appreciate the following clarification for the modern parent when it comes to understanding our role in prevention and recovery for all of the risks life presents our children: Prevention and recovery are the arms of God’s love. It is a big bear hug that wraps our compassion around the person who is our child; it is our passion for our child to be free from the bondage of any relationship that keeps them aimed far away from the heart of a healthy relationship with God and family. The big question for the modern parent is: what do you believe about the human condition? Really, how do you perceive sin? Is it a judgy thing that does not apply to you and your child? Do you believe that your sincere parenting will guarantee your child will be safe from the pitfalls? How do you understand the mighty, cyber-powered pressures of the world that intensify bullying, addiction and exploitation?

Anatomy of a parent’s heart: How to care for your child in the social network

Wednesday, November 13th, 2013
This feature on the anatomy of a parent's heart draws from Joanna's parent workshop, Fresh Start, which teaches parents how create a family culture to overcome undue influence of texting and social media.

Restoring good faith at home

Wednesday, November 13th, 2013
...The voices in this edition offer practical perspectives and ways to demonstrate good faith with our children dealing with the modern issues growing up in a cyber-powered world including maintaining open parent-child communication, overcoming distraction and learning issues, recovering from risky choices, bonding in single parent households and blended families, and empowering children to create a peaceful society.

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About Joanna Jullien

Joanna Jullien

Joanna (jullien@surewest.net) and her husband have raised two sons in Roseville, CA. She has a degree from U.C. Berkeley in Social Anthropology (corporate culture). Her honors thesis was awarded the Kroeber Prize and funding from National Science Foundation grant. Joanna writes to help parents with the modern-day leadership challenges of raising children. She is a contributing writer for The Granite Bay View, the Press Tribune, the Sacramento Examiner, and editor of Banana Moments.

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