Archive for the 'Parental Authority' Category
Monday, August 10th, 2015
Last month, for example, the Sacramento FBI office reached out for public assistance to identify victims of a sextortion pedophile who had terrorized over 350 girls ranging in age from 12 to 14 years. This is every parent’s nightmare for their tech-savvy child; that a sexual predator would seduce and then deface your child’s sense of worth, liberty and dignity. His method of operation was to introduce himself on-line as a teen boy who expressed interest, and then convinced them to compromise themselves with sexually explicit images. Once he had enough to threaten to expose them to their family and friends, he continued to demand more sexual favors which he recorded and documented for his pleasure and profit. All of this transpired on-line and in their own homes.
Wednesday, July 22nd, 2015
It is the politics of parenthood.
When a child does something wonderful, good or amazing, we exalt the parents and proclaim there must have been excellent parenting skill involved. Or if a child does something in appropriate, depraved or horrific, we immediately jump to the conclusion that the parents did a poor job...
Monday, July 20th, 2015
The biggest challenge for parenting today is that the technology can become a huge distraction, and the children are at risk of having their cyber-powered peer communities becoming a single point of reference for life. Nevertheless parents are the primary teachers for life, and formation of faith is first learned at home. So how can parents impart their faith when kids can easily believe that everything they think they need to know about the world they can simply “Google”? (I call this the “smarty pants syndrome”).
Monday, July 6th, 2015
Over the past few months, more headlines have surfaced about parents publicly shaming their children by posting images on line about their wrong doing and discipline. What this indicates to me is a misunderstanding about what it means to discipline, which is to inspire others to learn by your own example, counsel and instruction.
Monday, July 6th, 2015
My two cents
The most important thing a parent can do for the modern child is to shed their own fearful thoughts about being in control of our children’s lives on and off line. In the hyper-connected world it is easy to believe things that are not true and focus on things that don’t matter. And for parents and children, one of the untruth’s is this notion that parents have control over their own children.…
Saturday, June 27th, 2015
It is true that all innovations can be used for good, or not good. This goes for matches, the automobile, prescription drugs and smart devices. The question remains who is in charge? You or the device?
Monday, June 15th, 2015
Last Saturday therapists, counselors and parents gathered to launch a movement to restore family as the “place to be” through strengthening the spiritual resilience of parents at home as the primary teachers for life. This event, a symposium on meeting the spiritual and mental health needs of modern youth and families, is the inaugural event for Banana Moments Foundation - an resource center devoted to strengthening the parent-child bond in a hyper connected world.
Monday, June 8th, 2015
Never before have parents been so ignorant and fearful of the emerging childhood experience as those of the first generation of digital natives (i.e., kids born in 1990 or later). The technology is so ubiquitous, dynamic ad compelling, and it makes possible clandestine risky relationships and inappropriate content in plain sight (think internet porn, sexting, texting, gossip and pedophiles)...By the same token, digital natives (kids born after 1990 who cannot imagine a world without internet connectivity) are seeking authenticity, which is fearlessness. They are welcoming a more intimate bond with parents, and willing to collaborate in ways that previous generations have not. Did you know that there is such a thing as “bring your parent to work day?”
Monday, June 1st, 2015
Parents are very comfortable posting pictures of kids in their social media which means that there is potential risk for overexposure on-line. A recent study by Nominet found that the average parent posts over 200 pictures of their children per year without checking privacy settings; by the time a child is five, on average 1,000 photos of them have been shared on line. This study found that half of the parents did not realize that the social media site owns the rights to use their child’s photos. It is a reminder that parents too are vulnerable to the seductive influence of sharing and liking posts in ways that could compromise their child’s security.
Sunday, May 24th, 2015
We live in a world responding to laws and devices and yet they do not possess nor extend grace which comes from the heart. Grace is what makes it possible for us to learn how to love and be loved; to nurture the soul. This kind of communication is sacred and cannot be faked. And yet, in the network culture, there is a great confusion on the authority inherent in roles such as parent, coach, and educator. Parents seeking to become friends and coaches are at risk of abandoning their role in the home, which is to prepare and encourage their children to engage authority figures in the world with clarity and confidence of purpose, respect and compassion for one another. It is the power to forgive the control issues of the world that disturb our peace, amplified by cyber connectivity (think cyberbullying and sexting).