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The power of your mind to make resolutions work

Monday, February 16th, 2015

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Motivational speaker Steven Campbell authored a book called, Making Your Mind Magnificent: Flourishing At Any Age, in order to help people understand and apply the power of our minds as it relates to the physiology of our brains and leading a fulfilled life. Campbell is the host of a radio talk show called, “Your Amazing Mind” in Sonoma, Ca., and he is

Relating to children hooked on devices

Friday, December 26th, 2014
Indeed relating to the modern child, (who is more worldly and empowered by the feeling of validation in a tap-and-click world), requires more proactive thought, reflection and conviction about your personal worldview. In generations past, the social norms for civilized conduct and compassion for fellow human beings were generally supported by the wider community norms and children were socialized at home and school accordingly. Today, the modern culture of entitlement amplified by internet-powered connectivity blurs the boundaries for personal responsibility and security.

Cyber rites of passage for children of all ages

Monday, October 13th, 2014

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 Cyber Rites of Passage

  • Setting and maintaining age-appropriate boundaries in this web-enabled environment is tricky and achievable. Ultimately the goal is to groom your child to be self-governing and responsible with the cyber-powered applications and tools.

Rites of passage typically provide some definitive criteria for conferring roles, responsibilities, rights and privileges and social standing to individuals as they mature in society. It is a way …

Talking with confidence about internet porn and sexting

Tuesday, August 26th, 2014
This talk explores ways to have a meaningful conversation with your child about sexual exploitation, and in particular as it relates to internet porn and sexting.

How to explain monitoring your child’s texting and social media as love language

Monday, July 28th, 2014
When parents accept that they have legitimate authority for providing protective cover for their children, which is not the same thing as controlling them, then it is possible to express your passion for the child’s God-given liberty to think for himself. And because we are not in control of our child, rather the child is in control and must learn how to use free will wisely, it is imperative that boundary setting and parental oversight is expressed as passion for individual liberty to choose to obey boundaries that keep us free to prosper; it is loving your child as God does.

Preparing for internet porn and sex in the social network

Thursday, June 12th, 2014
Internet porn and sexting is about power and control in the realm of hearts and minds; it is about human exploitation which is glorified on and off line in popular culture and in cyber-powered peer communities. These are adult issues because they evoke primal emotion that can be challenging to tame at any age, and our job as the primary teachers is to help children learn how to discipline their own thinking so they can overcome responses to such worldly images and experiences that can make us feel powerless. Moreover, historically, parenting is viewed as a prevention only exercise. Conventional wisdom of popular parenting culture suggests that if we are good parents our children will become model citizens beyond reproach. And yet, the physical and cyber realms of our world introduce the pressure to surrender personal power (i.e, the free will to choose what to believe and then how to respond) with very seductive, convincing, addictive and exploitative agendas of others that disturb the peace and can disrupt our capacity to think with the mind of our greater selves -the divinity within.

How to manage cyber-powered summer stress

Monday, June 2nd, 2014
Over the past ten years of fieldwork, research and personal experience governing the cyber-powered home, there can be no doubt for me that internet connectivity does intensify the role of emotion in daily life. There is just more hype; there is more excitement and anxiety in response to the influence of devices, apps and social networks. Also, the science of addiction affirms that outside stimulation from things like drugs, sex, gambling and internet can alter the brain by activating the brain’s dopamine reward system (neurotransmitters that make us feel good) which in some cases can cause an individual to become dependent upon the external stimulation to feel okay. Addiction experts will tell you that people do not become addicted to the drug or the vice (gambling/sex); rather they have a pathological relationship with intoxication which can only be corrected by the individual suffering from addiction. Hence exposure to so much cyber stimulation is a very real experience of modern life – making it more challenging to maintain a state of peace in our own inner worlds. On top of that, regulating summer emotions intensified by cyber connectivity can be a terrific challenge. We all know that summer can offer fun experiences and it can also be a season of stressful experiences with extreme high and low emotions in response to change of routine, boredom, summer friendship dynamics and conflicts, anticipation and disappointment of vacation plans, body image issues with summer clad fashions and bathing suits, financial stress to pay for summer childcare and other activities, etc., and so it is no surprise that the greatest time of risk for kids to start using drugs and alcohol in response to intense emotion happens in June and July.

Is being ‘facebook friends’ with your young adult child too much information?

Monday, May 12th, 2014
A recent Mother’s Day headline features five reasons to be friends with your mom on Facebook. The article basically argues that it is a good thing to “friend” your mom because Facebook moms are cool, after all they are using social media. And they want to know what is happening in your life and enjoying looking at the pictures of friends and what’s happening in your world. Also she worries so she needs to be informed, and most importantly you never call her anyway and it’s cheaper than a plane ticket. So why not?

How to establish a presence in your child’s cyber realm without snooping

Monday, May 5th, 2014
A Google World in the Garden of Eden: Five Family-Safe Strategies for Texting and Social Media, offers information on house rules and cyber rites of passage. A Google World in the Garden of Eden: Five Family-Safe Strategies for Texting and Social Media, offers information on house rules and cyber rites of passage. A survey by VoucherCloud.net via MediaPost revealed that 75% of parents snoop on their teen’s social media. The article concludes that parents have to be sneaky because teens don’t want to share with parents what is happening. And while it is vital that parents provide protective cover for their minor children, the higher objective of educating kids to be self-governing can become lost by responding with more “secret behavior” on the part of the parent.

How to know if your smartphone is robbing attention from your child, and what to do about it

Monday, April 28th, 2014
Your child essentially translates inattention as rejection. Most parents don’t realize that attention management is one of the most important cyber-safety factors for kids and families, because preoccupation with devices hinders the development of open parent-child communication, which is essential for parents to stay current on what is happening in their children’s cyber realms.

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About Joanna Jullien

Joanna Jullien

Joanna (jullien@surewest.net) and her husband have raised two sons in Roseville, CA. She has a degree from U.C. Berkeley in Social Anthropology (corporate culture). Her honors thesis was awarded the Kroeber Prize and funding from National Science Foundation grant. Joanna writes to help parents with the modern-day leadership challenges of raising children. She is a contributing writer for The Granite Bay View, the Press Tribune, the Sacramento Examiner, and editor of Banana Moments.

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