Archive for the 'Education' Category

Grace-filled parenting in the chaos of the social network

Sunday, May 24th, 2015
We live in a world responding to laws and devices and yet they do not possess nor extend grace which comes from the heart. Grace is what makes it possible for us to learn how to love and be loved; to nurture the soul. This kind of communication is sacred and cannot be faked. And yet, in the network culture, there is a great confusion on the authority inherent in roles such as parent, coach, and educator. Parents seeking to become friends and coaches are at risk of abandoning their role in the home, which is to prepare and encourage their children to engage authority figures in the world with clarity and confidence of purpose, respect and compassion for one another. It is the power to forgive the control issues of the world that disturb our peace, amplified by cyber connectivity (think cyberbullying and sexting).

Parenting the power and control issues in the social network

Monday, March 30th, 2015
Parents are the primary teachers for life, and internet connectivity introduces an enhanced power crisis for parents and children. In a tap and click world, the devices inspire an intoxication feeling, which makes it difficult to put down the device, and kids can easily perceive that parents are irrelevant because everything they think they need to know they can “google”. In a hyper-connected world, formal authority in titles like parent, teacher and president have less gravitas, so how can parents assert their inherent authority when the world is flat?

Cyber-safe tips for choosing children’s apps

Monday, February 2nd, 2015
The internet is an open environment and it is relatively easy to create and market apps globally, so parents must be vigilant about knowing that the apps that are downloaded for their children and family are coming from trusted resources. The FTC has recently issued a warning to a Chinese children’s app developer, BabyBus, that several of its apps violate the Child On Line Privacy Protection Act (COPPA), which mandates developers comply with the COPPA Rule’s notice that includes verifiable parental consent, and other requirements. According to Inside Privacy, some of the BabyBus apps collect precise geolocation information that is shared with third parties, such as advertising networks and/or analytics companies which is a violation of COPPA. According to a recent NetworkedWorld report, Twitter claims that there is no sign up process to access the new Kid’s Vine app, and they are not collecting any personal data from the user but it is not clear whether they are COPPA compliant.

Access to your child’s social media will not stop cyberbullying

Monday, January 26th, 2015
...Granting schools access to the social media of a child suspected of bullying may complicate things and create more harm. It would, it seems, make more sense to mandate the parent provide access to the account without giving up the password, so as to facilitate the investigation of an incident and limit access for that purpose alone. If the school’s mandate is to stop bullies because of the threat of lawsuits or career black eyes, and the fearful mindset is to seek control of individuals rather than teaching all students involved to expect accountability with compassion and to seek the justice for all involved, then we are at risk of perpetuating the “blame” mentality which inspires more bullying by the “righteous”...

The role of parents in confronting the bully at school

Monday, September 22nd, 2014
Back to school is a time of excitement as well as insecurity and uncertainty. And in the cyber social realm, where it is easy to be mean, the cyberbully phenomenon surfaces as a topic of concern and conversation. While bullying is not new, the level of hostility and persistent invasiveness that mobile connectivity inspires in the social networks our children navigate on and off line is unprecedented. And the children need socialization to help them overcome the lack of empathy that can happen from behind the screen. It is a challenge that has inspired legislation across the nation to make cyberbullying cause for disciplinary action in schools.

Balancing emotion and reason: Taming the mama and papa bear

Thursday, June 12th, 2014
In an article via Mamapedia, a blogger mom, Jenny Ball, expresses her simmering rage in an open letter to an Amway lady who deeply offended her teenage son while he concluded a shift at his supermarket job. The lady was a customer and as he finished bagging her groceries, she made a comment about his acne and then suggested she had a product that would take care of it and left him her card. Personally I recognized this mama bear that surfaced in this blog post. That mama bear lives in me too; and as a mom reformed I routinely redirect that mama bear to her cage. And so I could also appreciate the considerable restraint this angry mom demonstrated not to publish the woman’s contact information as she delivered a diatribe that ascribed misguided and exploitive motives on the part of the Amway lady in question. This mother heart knew intimately how painful that Amway exchange was for her son, which according to her was a kick in the gut to someone who already knew he had an acne problem and was working on it.

How to advocate for the education of the modern child: It’s personal

Thursday, June 12th, 2014
When my sons were in grade school, they each in their own way declared that their academic education was the teacher’s job, not mine. And just as my children were arguing for a sacred division of labor between parents and teachers, I explained with divine confidence that there could be no doubt that their education was ultimately the parents’ responsibility. I cannot say that I understood their logic for declaring their education none of my business, but I do know that it was important for me to form a united front with the teacher, so that my sons would not feel like they were serving two masters. And while I did my best not to assert my personal opinions about their academic performance, the expectation of the children in our home as students was simple: behave and do your personal best. My children knew that if they failed a class, they better still be getting an “A” in citizenship. And for me this was a no-brainer because if they knew how to behave in the classroom, they would capable of learning something if they so choose. Over the past decade, I have observed our system of academic education to be a somewhat emotional area for parenthood as the anecdotal evidence suggests that a college degree is not a panacea what with all the debt financing and a lackluster job market. In a recent New York Times article about whether college was worth it, it is interesting to me that the case was made that in the long run, earning a college degree, despite the cost, is worth it. One of the conclusions this journalist asserts is that college has become what was once the value of a high school degree. I perceive this to be true. I wonder what high school lessons consisted of 100 years ago and if we might find it resembling more college level learning. And by the same token, the benefits from the pursuit of education in any venue is such a personal matter because in order to be truly fruitful, enrolling in an educational institution still requires the individual to apply herself in some meaningful way. The most important thing a child can learn is how to seek and realize their personal mission in life; to embrace a strong sense of purpose to guide them. In this context, some children are college bound and others are not. So how will you receive your child if she decides not to pursue a traditional college education? Is a college degree the only path for her success in life? In this regard, child rearing expert, Madeline Levine cautions us in her book, Teach the Children Well, to be careful about levying a very narrow definition of success for our children because it causes emotional trauma and harm; it is indeed a boundary violation even though we may choose call it love language.

How to establish a presence in your child’s cyber realm without snooping

Monday, May 5th, 2014
A Google World in the Garden of Eden: Five Family-Safe Strategies for Texting and Social Media, offers information on house rules and cyber rites of passage. A Google World in the Garden of Eden: Five Family-Safe Strategies for Texting and Social Media, offers information on house rules and cyber rites of passage. A survey by VoucherCloud.net via MediaPost revealed that 75% of parents snoop on their teen’s social media. The article concludes that parents have to be sneaky because teens don’t want to share with parents what is happening. And while it is vital that parents provide protective cover for their minor children, the higher objective of educating kids to be self-governing can become lost by responding with more “secret behavior” on the part of the parent.

Is social media sucking the life out of your family relationships?

Friday, April 11th, 2014
So if there is not a decent measure of peace at home. If you are feeling uneasy about your family life and your relationships with your children leave you wondering if you have done enough, or even if you are capable or are enough, take a look at what thoughts are growing in your own Garden of Eden. Are they thoughts rooted in God's promises? Or are they rooted in the expectations of the world, which can be harsh and punishing and knock our aim off of the bull's-eye.

How your child’s social media posts can hurt you and what to do about it

Monday, March 10th, 2014
The harsh reality that cyber communications are not private is a challenging concept to get across. We don’t see the open, boundary-less nature of the network communications; we don’t normally calculate the myriad of circumstances that conspire to share information intended only to a few.

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About Joanna Jullien

Joanna Jullien

Joanna (jullien@surewest.net) and her husband have raised two sons in Roseville, CA. She has a degree from U.C. Berkeley in Social Anthropology (corporate culture). Her honors thesis was awarded the Kroeber Prize and funding from National Science Foundation grant. Joanna writes to help parents with the modern-day leadership challenges of raising children. She is a contributing writer for The Granite Bay View, the Press Tribune, the Sacramento Examiner, and editor of Banana Moments.

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