My faith tells me that the gift of intelligent life and free will requires me to carefully examine my thoughts, because that is where pride starts: in a lofty thought which may be subtle and reinforced by society. Being successful in the culture of man, does not begin with seeking and doing the will of God. So in this cyber-powered society, I pray for wisdom in all things, so that my path is in alignment …
I often get calls from parents who are concerned about their kids dyslexia, ADHD, reading, writing, spelling, or math skills. And within our conversations it shortly becomes apparent to me that there is an additional problem that is interfering with their child's learning: having poor executive function skills.
The most challenging “banana moment” for the modern parent is when to issue your child a smart phone. It is a rite of passage that carries with it privileges, responsibilities and dangers tantamount to handing over the keys to the car. And it happens typically around middle school or upper grammar school grades. One of the reasons why it is so challenging to parent youth with mobile devices is that they are empowered by the feeling of no limits to communication, and they will naturally be resistant to parental oversight – especially when shame-inspired content transpires (i.e., sexting, bullying, gossip). And it is easy to keep secrets because cyber connectivity is so clandestine.
A recent Mamapedia post, “4 ways social media is ruining Christmas,” expressed dismay at the challenges social media present parents who are confronted with different beliefs about Santa. According to this mom blogger, two main ways social media appears to be ruining Christmas are the sanctimonious posts of parents who want their children to believe in Santa complaining about people who don’t support them, while others are adamant that Santa is a myth that we should just get over it.
A recent article by Naomi Schaefer Riley in the New York Post features the lack of parental confidence in a child’s ability to be responsible for their own security as a type of schizophrenia that looks something like this: little girls are wearing sexy Halloween costumes while college students are calling parents daily to make basic decisions about class courses and campus life. The article points to an “amorphous fear” of a culture that is not geared toward protecting children.
Cyber Safety for Families with Joanna and Jodie on 103.9FM The Fish Family Morning Show
Mobile connectivity use is difficult to regulate because it can be very addictive. Brain science tells us that the interaction with the device has the same effect on the brain as a drug because it stimulates the same reward system of the brain, dopamine. A new study finds that heavy use of the internet by teens may create a risk …
A recent article in the Setonian features the dangers of texting while walking on campus, including bumping into walls and other people, tripping and falling and walking into oncoming traffic. In this way, with the advent of mobile connectivity, I have learned that being present is something that we take for granted, as if it is some kind of an effortless thing when indeed it is not. And the more we experience the impact of mobile connectivity seemingly omnipresent in every device, room, gathering and relationship – well, it frankly, becomes more difficult to simply be present and give one another undivided attention, much less pay attention to our surroundings while traveling by foot or from behind the wheel.
Nationally 7 out of 10 students are below grade level…7 out of 10 students are not proficient in reading, writing, and math…and these are not just the struggling or learning challenged kids. These are national statistics – so out of every 10 kids, only 3 are at grade level or above grade level. They may have basic skills, but they are not proficient! So why are so many students not proficient? Why are so many children and teens doing poorly in school?
Grooming children for the social network is a tremendous challenge for the modern parent, largely because mobile connectivity introduces a power crisis that previous generations have not experienced. In many ways we are traveling unchartered territory of the heart and mind when it comes to the choices we make as parents with regard to access and regulated use of technology. Truly whoever has the device must learn how to think like the quarterback.
In an interview earlier this week with AVG Technologies Security Evangelist, Tony Ascombe, he explains that the results of a recent Harris Poll survey commissioned by AVG indicate that the cyber safety concerns for youth equipped with internet-enabled devices are all about the parent. This survey is scheduled to be released soon and was not available for publication at the time of this interview.
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Joanna (firstname.lastname@example.org) and her husband have raised two sons in Roseville, CA. She has a degree from U.C. Berkeley in Social Anthropology (corporate culture). Her honors thesis was awarded the Kroeber Prize and funding from National Science Foundation grant. Joanna writes to help parents with the modern-day leadership challenges of raising children. She is a contributing writer for The Granite Bay View, the Press Tribune, the Sacramento Examiner, and editor of Banana Moments.