Archive for the 'CyberParent Power' Category
Monday, September 15th, 2014
The new iPhone 6 and iOS8 was released last week, and as is always the case, new releases of technology bring changes that can be good and potentially problematic. So parents need to be aware of what is involved and have a plan to handle it.
Monday, June 23rd, 2014
Keep in mind most of the social media realm is truly adult swim, the minimum age to engage in social networks for this industry is 13, and many parents are allowing children to access networks at much younger ages. And there is no doubt that monitoring your child’s friend network is challenging in a dynamic environment where it is easy for kids to gain access to social media apps without parental oversight, and at the same time it is so important that you are able to impart your wisdom about with which networks your child engages, when (age-appropriate) and who they choose to allow in their own social network.
Monday, November 4th, 2013
...The aim of parenting in a cyber-powered world is to become a trusted resource for your child in all matters on and off line. This is the blessing of the power crisis for the family ushered in by internet connectivity....
Monday, October 7th, 2013
The biggest concern parents have is the undue influence texting and social media has on their children. The best way to counter undue influence is to provide quality attention and take an active interest in what is happening with your child (beyond sports and grades) and help them put the texting and social media apps in proper perspective for their lives.
Tuesday, September 24th, 2013
Lisa Ford Berry, founder of B.R.A.V.E. Society, lost her son Michael five years ago on his 17th birthday to suicide induced by relentless cyberbullying. “People must understand that the cyber communications make it possible to break a person,” Berry said of her son Michael who was an outstanding student, well-liked, and strong in his Christian faith.
According to Berry, someone decided to start a rumor that he was gay when it was discovered he was saving himself for marriage. “The thing that broke Michael was that he was so isolated by the hate biased, harassment, and his cries for help went unheeded by friends and administrators at school,” she said. “In a letter he left us, he explained the humiliation was too much to bring to our attention. He had lost all hope. Basically his faith was turned against him by an entire community.”
Recognizing that Michael’s plight is evidence of a broken society and the children are suffering from a lack of civility that is illegal in the workplace, Berry founded B.R.A.V.E. Society to promote awareness of the bully crisis children experience in their cyber-powered peer communities, and develop strategies with legislators, educators and parents to help children create a more peaceful society using cyber-powered communications.
Tuesday, September 24th, 2013
In a post to TheTimesNews, parenting expert John Rosemond responds to a recent news story about a 13-year old Washington state boy arrested for making threats to blow up his middle school and kill a teacher, and Rosemond criticizes a mother who when interviewed by the news expressed pity for the boy and shared that her own grade school son became very anxious when she told him about the incident.
And while I have great respect for Rosemond’s work, what struck me as curious about this particular article was how “out of touch” the tone and delivery of his conclusions seem to me. The idea that parents simply needed to protect the naiveté of their children, and that the boy who made terrorist threats deserved no pity, that he is essentially a criminal, does not resonate for me as a relevant application of faith and discipline for the modern family.
Tuesday, September 17th, 2013
Last night I spoke at the Granite Bay National Charity League meeting at the Lutheran Church in Granite Bay. The topic was “governing a cyber-powered home”.
My talk focused on an image that came across my desk on Sunday about the new iPhone 5S . Check out this picture from a Mashable article of the little girl duping the fingerprint security feature by using her dad’s thumb to open the smart phone while he is fast asleep, exhausted on the couch.
I love this photo because it is a powerful image about the challenge of the modern parent; it portrays the natural glee and desire of children attracted to the devices, which capture their full attention and their cunning to access it.
Tuesday, September 10th, 2013
Now more than ever, what you believe matters for the parent-child relationship because the pressure from the social network distracts us about things that don’t really matter and tries to convince us of things that are largely not true. Some examples include:
Monday, September 2nd, 2013
CyberParentPower Topic of the Week
Photo by: Lord Jim via Flickr
I recently came across a powerful message about the case for hope delivered by Jeff Cavins, in his talk called Shameless: Seeing Yourself as God Sees You (CD by Lighthouse Catholic Media). He talked about the nature of shame and the role of shame in our lives.
His message made sense to me, especially since modern childhood and family lifestyles with cyber-powered communications is colored by so much raw exposure to messages and experiences that bring in shame to appear as an emerging new norm (i.e., murderous violence and suicide by youth, sexual exploitation, bullying, and commercial and popular cultural influences measuring our worth by standards well beneath us).
Tuesday, August 27th, 2013
Educators and law enforcement will tell you from what they witness in the field two trends that should give parents pause. One, the mobile phones are issued at earlier and earlier ages, and two, the children are exposed to or engaged in inappropriate and risky communications of which parents are simply not aware.