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When high school ‘drama’ becomes bullying, here’s what to do about it

Monday, April 7th, 2014
I believe the modern child experiences a bully climate in ways we cannot perceive unless we experience it at their age. The drama we experienced as adolescents without cyber connectivity is amplified for the modern teen; and it can easily take on a life of its own in the form of personal attack that sometimes convinces you that you cannot survive, or worse yet, that there is no point in surviving it. Did you have an arch nemesis in middle or high school? What would she have done with an Instagram or Twitter account? An anonymous teacher said it beautifully: “There are more bad apples and many more swing voters.”

The top 3 things parents can do to shield their child from cyberbullying

Monday, March 31st, 2014
Bullying is learned behavior. Children do as we do, and so I have learned that if our own personal strategy is to use intimidation and anger in response to bad customer service or in reaction to the things that family members do that are annoying or disruptive, we in turn are disturbing the peace, not contributing to it.

Worrying and caring: Why they are not the same thing

Sunday, March 2nd, 2014
So let us be clear. Worrying is not the same thing as caring because it is the product of fear, not love. And worry is in my opinion the most toxic temptation of the modern parent given the truly perilous network culture that encompasses the modern childhood.

Reaping the benefits of technology for you and your child

Tuesday, December 31st, 2013
Debbie Gisonni is an author, speaker and trainer on wisdom and media and CEO of The StillHeart Institute in Woodside, California. Gisonni is a former technology executive who experienced four deaths of family members over a four-year period, one of them a suicide, which pulled her into a deep period of sadness, and inspired an interest to pursue the things about life that nourish and comfort the soul. The family tragedies sent her on a quest to pursue happiness, which could not be found in the latest app or gadget. The perspectives and lessons-learned she offers are excellent food for thought for the modern parent hovering in a home with multiple devices where we spend a lot of time together (in the same house), but may still be isolated and alone – going through the motions distant and yet somehow still connected.

Keeping tabs on your child’s digital hangouts (part 1) – Where are they?

Monday, December 9th, 2013

Cyber Safety for Kids and Families with Joanna and Jodie on 103.9FM The Fish

New social media sites and messaging apps are popping up just about every day, and kids wind up flocking to these  apps in order to form their own communities, separate from the Facebook network. Every two to three years it seems breeds a new digital generation tied to the latest and greatest apps.

How can parents keep up?

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Don’t let a few bad apples and swing voters empower the cyberbully

Wednesday, November 13th, 2013
Six or seven years ago I came across a prophetic quote from an anonymous teacher regarding the emerging new norm of student conduct in the classroom: “There are a few more bad apples in the classroom, and a lot more swing voters.” These swing voters are more commonly known as bystanders who stand for nothing. Bystanders allow simple acts of rudeness, cruelty and hostility to disturb the peace, making it difficult to learn whether it be in the classroom or on the sports field. Bystanders allow the escalation of hostility powered by texting and social media that convinces a child that there is no surviving it.

How to help kids prevent and recover from risks involving drugs, sex and bullying

Wednesday, November 13th, 2013
...Whether your child has suffered trauma from bullying, being exploited sexually, failed relationships due to cyber-powered gossip and betrayal, or suffers from addiction to drugs, porn or devices and apps including video gamming, our challenge as parents is to respond to the human condition with a heart at peace so that your child can believe you are a trustworthy resource for prevention and recovery support. Parents who criticize others outted for risky choices and conduct (such as sexting or drug abuse), for example, send strong signals to your own child that is is not safe to talk about what is happening in their world on and off line without fear of retribution; and then it is not possible to impart wisdom. It is not possible to provide the prevention and recovery support kids need from parents for all the experiences in their life that make up critical decision points impacting their personal security. So I have come to appreciate the following clarification for the modern parent when it comes to understanding our role in prevention and recovery for all of the risks life presents our children: Prevention and recovery are the arms of God’s love. It is a big bear hug that wraps our compassion around the person who is our child; it is our passion for our child to be free from the bondage of any relationship that keeps them aimed far away from the heart of a healthy relationship with God and family. The big question for the modern parent is: what do you believe about the human condition? Really, how do you perceive sin? Is it a judgy thing that does not apply to you and your child? Do you believe that your sincere parenting will guarantee your child will be safe from the pitfalls? How do you understand the mighty, cyber-powered pressures of the world that intensify bullying, addiction and exploitation?

Anatomy of a parent’s heart: How to care for your child in the social network

Wednesday, November 13th, 2013
This feature on the anatomy of a parent's heart draws from Joanna's parent workshop, Fresh Start, which teaches parents how create a family culture to overcome undue influence of texting and social media.

Restoring good faith at home

Wednesday, November 13th, 2013
...The voices in this edition offer practical perspectives and ways to demonstrate good faith with our children dealing with the modern issues growing up in a cyber-powered world including maintaining open parent-child communication, overcoming distraction and learning issues, recovering from risky choices, bonding in single parent households and blended families, and empowering children to create a peaceful society.

How to teach forgiveness as a family value that keeps children cyber safe

Monday, October 28th, 2013
Human beings are feeling creatures who think. So whether we intend to or not, every one of us eventually winds up offending others or being offended by others. It is a big part of the human experience. So forgiveness is critical for cyber safety because without it a hostile spirit prevails in our children’s cyber-powered peer communities as resentments become expressed as bullying, and children keep risky secrets (such as being bullied or exploited). Below are some points to help clarify forgiveness as a family value:

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About Joanna Jullien

Joanna Jullien

Joanna (jullien@surewest.net) and her husband have raised two sons in Roseville, CA. She has a degree from U.C. Berkeley in Social Anthropology (corporate culture). Her honors thesis was awarded the Kroeber Prize and funding from National Science Foundation grant. Joanna writes to help parents with the modern-day leadership challenges of raising children. She is a contributing writer for The Granite Bay View, the Press Tribune, the Sacramento Examiner, and editor of Banana Moments.

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