Archive for the 'Honesty' Category
Monday, April 14th, 2014
Social media and texting has become such a normal part of daily life it can easily be perceived as a right, rather than a privilege. The minimum age for use of social media has been set at 13 years, but it is not possible for media sites like Facebook, Instagram, SnapChat and Twitter to enforce that users are truthful about entering their date of birth. Kids at younger ages are tempted to get into the social media mix, which is a concern because in the cyber realm many adult issues are exposed to very young hearts and minds.
Friday, April 11th, 2014
So if there is not a decent measure of peace at home. If you are feeling uneasy about your family life and your relationships with your children leave you wondering if you have done enough, or even if you are capable or are enough, take a look at what thoughts are growing in your own Garden of Eden. Are they thoughts rooted in God's promises? Or are they rooted in the expectations of the world, which can be harsh and punishing and knock our aim off of the bull's-eye.
Monday, March 17th, 2014
It is difficult to disconnect from the device (and hence work and tasks), and yet it is so easy to be disconnected from our children. A recent news story featured a study that showed parents having a difficult time paying attention to their children while dinning out. Their heads were down texting and reading emails, rather than being …
Monday, March 10th, 2014
The harsh reality that cyber communications are not private is a challenging concept to get across. We don’t see the open, boundary-less nature of the network communications; we don’t normally calculate the myriad of circumstances that conspire to share information intended only to a few.
Sunday, March 2nd, 2014
We must stand firm daily in what we enjoy and embrace to be beautiful. We live in a culture constantly presenting its views and perspectives of what beauty is. We are bombarded through social media, magazines, peers, with their definitions/opinions of beauty, perspectives often driven by greed and power. These can distract us from experiencing what we truly find to be beautiful.
Sunday, March 2nd, 2014
More dramatic than the cultural revolution of the 1960’s and 1970’s, the advent of internet and mobile connectivity inspired a radical power crisis for the individual and for the family. In a world, flattened and boundary-less by cyber communications, the opportunity is ripe for the parent-child bond to be strengthened and deepened as a “new norm” beyond that of previous generations.
Youth today cannot imagine the world without internet connectivity. They are conditioned for authority differently. The value of hierarchical authority is less prominent; and for this breed of human, authority is a relational experience.
Sunday, March 2nd, 2014
While it can be said that the parents of previous generations would recognize some of the parenting concerns of our time (power and control issues), there remains the fact that every generation is faced with a different set of circumstances involving innovation (for example, what would parenting be like today without the automobile?) and that a reasonably happy parenthood remains a challenge that requires individuals to engage with a heart and mind willing to learn how to express discipline as love language for you and your child.
Monday, February 24th, 2014
Social media introduces another dimension of freedom and risk for children that require parental guidance, yet the perception is that cyber communications are private. Children can easily be offended when parents become involved. And this is a problem because if the child is offended, he or she can choose to create alternative social media profiles in order to keep their on-line life a secret from you.
Monday, February 10th, 2014
In the physical and cyber realms, kids can get into trouble by ignoring their inner voice and simply go along in order to get along. Examples include, presenting images in social media that grandma would find questionable (clothing, poses and expression) in order to get more likes and “fit in”; allowing cyberbullying of another without saying or doing anything to help; and believing that the voice behind the photo of a stranger is safe because he is making you feel important, valued and appreciated.
These types of cyber risks happen when kids act out of character; they lose their sense of identity as a child who was born to love and be loved. For girls especially, recognizing their true identity as magnificent daughters is more challenging today with the crush of internet-powered images that sexualize children at young ages.
Monday, January 27th, 2014
As texting becomes the main artery of communication, there is a risk that connecting with others may be perceived as a bunch of contacts in a network, and the skills essential to nurturing meaningful relationships may not fully develop. Evidence for this concern is the cyberbully culture impacting the quality of our children’s social lives and their educational experience.
Email, posts and texting can make a person feel somewhat anonymous because you are not confronting the individual; the screen is shielding us from the analog connection conveyed by the heart via voice and eye contact. So indeed it is easy to be mean from behind the screen, because the face-to-face and voice interactions elicit a response from the other person which then invokes empathy. We can find ourselves behaving out of character on-line ( much like what happens when we are behind the wheel of a car).