Archive for the 'Happiness' Category

Why the truth matters in your child’s pursuit of happiness

Monday, October 13th, 2014

Welcome to the 2014 Fall Edition of Banana Moments Family Business Quarterly

A recent Mashable article features a young man who made the choice to drop out of school and pursue a career as a professional video game player and then stunned his parents by earning enough money to pay the rent, other bills and have a little left over for some luxuries. For now, this is a career that is fulfilling. It will probably …

Teaching children to be content with the consequences of their own choices

Thursday, July 31st, 2014
Living with the consequences of our choices can be a challenge in the modern world especially for our children whose cyber-powered experiences can convince them they have no real choices.

Balancing emotion and reason: Taming the mama and papa bear

Thursday, June 12th, 2014
In an article via Mamapedia, a blogger mom, Jenny Ball, expresses her simmering rage in an open letter to an Amway lady who deeply offended her teenage son while he concluded a shift at his supermarket job. The lady was a customer and as he finished bagging her groceries, she made a comment about his acne and then suggested she had a product that would take care of it and left him her card. Personally I recognized this mama bear that surfaced in this blog post. That mama bear lives in me too; and as a mom reformed I routinely redirect that mama bear to her cage. And so I could also appreciate the considerable restraint this angry mom demonstrated not to publish the woman’s contact information as she delivered a diatribe that ascribed misguided and exploitive motives on the part of the Amway lady in question. This mother heart knew intimately how painful that Amway exchange was for her son, which according to her was a kick in the gut to someone who already knew he had an acne problem and was working on it.

Twelve steps for the cyber-powered family: Reclaiming peace

Thursday, June 12th, 2014
Experiences like the trauma of being physically assaulted, abandoned and betrayed, as well as stimulants like drugs, alcohol, cyber technology, sex and graphic sexual images, and gambling can literally re-wire the brain to become dependent upon external sources to “feel good” or seek a sense of normal in response to painful emotion aroused in the realm of heart and mind. The net result (no pun intended) is that you can believe that there is no normal without the external stimulation – and hence there is no peace. In this state of addiction, the ability to self sooth, your personal power, is disabled.

How to disable the undue influence of drugs and alcohol

Thursday, June 12th, 2014
Placer County Sheriff Ed Bonner joins Joanna and Jodie for CyberParenting talk on TheFish Tuesday July 17 Placer County Sheriff Ed Bonner Recently I sat down with Placer County Sheriff, Ed Bonner, to discuss youth trends from a law enforcement perspective. And the top of his mind is that heroin has returned as a very real threat to ravage the youth among us. He was concerned because the addictive nature of this opiate can literally rob life from the child and destroy the family if unchecked. “And it is cheap and easy to obtain,” he said.

How to manage cyber-powered summer stress

Monday, June 2nd, 2014
Over the past ten years of fieldwork, research and personal experience governing the cyber-powered home, there can be no doubt for me that internet connectivity does intensify the role of emotion in daily life. There is just more hype; there is more excitement and anxiety in response to the influence of devices, apps and social networks. Also, the science of addiction affirms that outside stimulation from things like drugs, sex, gambling and internet can alter the brain by activating the brain’s dopamine reward system (neurotransmitters that make us feel good) which in some cases can cause an individual to become dependent upon the external stimulation to feel okay. Addiction experts will tell you that people do not become addicted to the drug or the vice (gambling/sex); rather they have a pathological relationship with intoxication which can only be corrected by the individual suffering from addiction. Hence exposure to so much cyber stimulation is a very real experience of modern life – making it more challenging to maintain a state of peace in our own inner worlds. On top of that, regulating summer emotions intensified by cyber connectivity can be a terrific challenge. We all know that summer can offer fun experiences and it can also be a season of stressful experiences with extreme high and low emotions in response to change of routine, boredom, summer friendship dynamics and conflicts, anticipation and disappointment of vacation plans, body image issues with summer clad fashions and bathing suits, financial stress to pay for summer childcare and other activities, etc., and so it is no surprise that the greatest time of risk for kids to start using drugs and alcohol in response to intense emotion happens in June and July.

Preparing children to love and be loved in the social network

Monday, May 26th, 2014
This past weekend presented very disturbing news about a young man, Elliot Rodgers, who gunned down six people in Santa Barbara over the weekend. From the news reports, it is clear that this young man was hyper-focused on seeking validation from the social network - which can leave a person feeling isolated, abandoned and angry.

Creating an on-line identity management policy for you and your child

Monday, May 19th, 2014

Cyber Safety for Kids and Families with Joanna and Jodie on !03.9FM The Fish Family Morning Show

jullien_kids_sillouetteParents are feeling pressure to post pictures and publish details of their child’s early life on line, and as the first generation of digital natives (born after 1990 who cannot imagine the world without WWW connectivity) becoming parents, it will be interesting to see how this decision is handled. A recent New York Times article about the pros …

How to establish a presence in your child’s cyber realm without snooping

Monday, May 5th, 2014
A Google World in the Garden of Eden: Five Family-Safe Strategies for Texting and Social Media, offers information on house rules and cyber rites of passage. A Google World in the Garden of Eden: Five Family-Safe Strategies for Texting and Social Media, offers information on house rules and cyber rites of passage. A survey by via MediaPost revealed that 75% of parents snoop on their teen’s social media. The article concludes that parents have to be sneaky because teens don’t want to share with parents what is happening. And while it is vital that parents provide protective cover for their minor children, the higher objective of educating kids to be self-governing can become lost by responding with more “secret behavior” on the part of the parent.

What does it mean to be an adult?

Wednesday, April 23rd, 2014
For me, becoming an adult is a work in process. Learning and Knowing how to be happy and finding joy in life is one of the biggest factors for becoming an adult. I think this quote says it all. Happiness isn't about what happens to us - it's about how we perceive what happens to us. It's the knack of finding a positive for every negative, and viewing a setback as a challenge. If we can just stop wishing for what we don't have, and start enjoying what we do have, our lives can be richer; more fulfilled - and happier. The time to be happy is now! Here are some great opinions of people of all ages who have answered this question.

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About Joanna Jullien

Joanna Jullien

Joanna ( and her husband have raised two sons in Roseville, CA. She has a degree from U.C. Berkeley in Social Anthropology (corporate culture). Her honors thesis was awarded the Kroeber Prize and funding from National Science Foundation grant. Joanna writes to help parents with the modern-day leadership challenges of raising children. She is a contributing writer for The Granite Bay View, the Press Tribune, the Sacramento Examiner, and editor of Banana Moments.