Archive for the 'Career Planning & Child Employment' Category
Monday, March 7th, 2016
While many parents are concerned for the personal security of their children using mobile devices and apps, one of the subtlest concerns that can impact a child’s future college and employment opportunities is their social media presence. Many college admissions departments are integrating the data gathered by the social media profiles of students.
Monday, February 29th, 2016
Knowing how to use technology and knowing how to use it wisely to benefit you are two very different things. Tech-savvy kids need guidance on content and appropriate sharing. These are boundaries that promote personal security and build resilience. Your aim as the parent is to instill personal discipline, based upon your beliefs and values, that make it possible for your child to have a reasonably trouble-free on-line experience, and create an on-line profile that is an asset. Below are some conversation tips to help your child be wise in creating on-line profiles.
Saturday, January 9th, 2016
Last Monday, Marie Hall, co-founder of Living Smart Foundation in Carmichael, facilitated a personal finance workshop for teens and young adults entitled, Head Start to Money, at St. Joseph Marello Catholic Church in Granite Bay.
Monday, September 21st, 2015
Children wind up using social media at early ages and create a digital footprint, which can show up in Google searches by colleges and employers. A digital footprint is the trail of messages and images associated with their name that once sent and posted can never be completely deleted. This new reality poses a new challenge for youth with regard to identity management and adolescence. Adolescence is a time of exploring self identity, and sometimes kids wind up doing stupid or inappropriate things that do not accurately represent their personhood as adults in the work world.
Monday, August 17th, 2015
Konow’s guidance is also relevant for cyber safe strategies to instill at home. They include knowing and representing yourself honestly, considering social media as a tool to support your personal goals, and realizing the impact of your on-line reputation and dealing with others posting and tagging images of you.
Thursday, June 12th, 2014
When my sons were in grade school, they each in their own way declared that their academic education was the teacher’s job, not mine. And just as my children were arguing for a sacred division of labor between parents and teachers, I explained with divine confidence that there could be no doubt that their education was ultimately the parents’ responsibility. I cannot say that I understood their logic for declaring their education none of my business, but I do know that it was important for me to form a united front with the teacher, so that my sons would not feel like they were serving two masters. And while I did my best not to assert my personal opinions about their academic performance, the expectation of the children in our home as students was simple: behave and do your personal best. My children knew that if they failed a class, they better still be getting an “A” in citizenship. And for me this was a no-brainer because if they knew how to behave in the classroom, they would capable of learning something if they so choose.
Over the past decade, I have observed our system of academic education to be a somewhat emotional area for parenthood as the anecdotal evidence suggests that a college degree is not a panacea what with all the debt financing and a lackluster job market. In a recent New York Times article about whether college was worth it, it is interesting to me that the case was made that in the long run, earning a college degree, despite the cost, is worth it. One of the conclusions this journalist asserts is that college has become what was once the value of a high school degree. I perceive this to be true. I wonder what high school lessons consisted of 100 years ago and if we might find it resembling more college level learning.
And by the same token, the benefits from the pursuit of education in any venue is such a personal matter because in order to be truly fruitful, enrolling in an educational institution still requires the individual to apply herself in some meaningful way. The most important thing a child can learn is how to seek and realize their personal mission in life; to embrace a strong sense of purpose to guide them. In this context, some children are college bound and others are not. So how will you receive your child if she decides not to pursue a traditional college education? Is a college degree the only path for her success in life? In this regard, child rearing expert, Madeline Levine cautions us in her book, Teach the Children Well, to be careful about levying a very narrow definition of success for our children because it causes emotional trauma and harm; it is indeed a boundary violation even though we may choose call it love language.
Sunday, March 2nd, 2014
Over the past decade I have come to appreciate that one of the most important things parents can do for the sake of our children and ourselves is to put aside shame. Let us consider the things that show up in dramatic, cyber-powered fashion that impart shame:
Tuesday, February 4th, 2014
There’s a reason why the gyms are packed in January and February, but then it’s nearly a ghost town with tumbleweeds blowing in April. Okay, I may be exaggerating, but not by much. The same can be said if your teen made goals/New Year’s Resolutions last month. Unfortunately, just making a “goal” is not enough.
At the heart of many teenagers’ …
Sunday, October 27th, 2013
Most of you (teens) believe that you are paid by the hour for your work, but in reality, we pay you based the value you bring to that hour of work. Dan Clark, a certified speaking professional of the National Speaker Association Hall of Fame in Salt Lake City said it perfectly – “When the value you bring to an hour at work exceeds your pay for that hour, you become a more valuable employee, and as a result, your job may be more secure, you may have more potential to advance in your career, and you’ll have happier, more fulfilling workdays.”
Monday, March 25th, 2013
In this “it is all about me” world of texting and social media, children can know way too much for their own good. More importantly, they are easily conditioned to keep the parent out of the equation when they are searching for answers and they risk becoming lost in the faulty-thinking of peer communities that frankly do not respect the individual.