Archive for the 'Youth violence' Category
Monday, November 24th, 2014
A recent survey found that 80% of UK parents feel that their children are growing up too fast, and the question remains who is in control? The technology (and media), the child or the parent? Many parents are granting unsupervised access to internet-powered devices at early ages, seven and younger, and there is a perception that the kids are growing up too fast. How can we shield children from the risky and evil ideas and lifestyles of popular culture and Hollywood that do not conform to our values?
Monday, September 29th, 2014
There are cyber device settings and apps that parents and kids can deploy as a part of your anti-bully strategy. The aim is to create boundaries in the cyber tools and in your child’s own hearts and minds embrace the correct thinking and actions in confronting a bully mentality. The most important thing parents can do is use these tools to inspire open dialogue about recognizing and responding to mean-spirited, nefarious or unkind communications in the children’s cyber social realm.
Tuesday, September 9th, 2014
The pursuit of truth is difficult when emotions are high and this is especially true in the social network. Cyber-powered connectivity can intensify the temptation to rush to judgment without all the facts and it is difficult to maintain a perspective informed by the aim to pursue justice before the pursuit of truth has even begun...
Monday, April 7th, 2014
I believe the modern child experiences a bully climate in ways we cannot perceive unless we experience it at their age. The drama we experienced as adolescents without cyber connectivity is amplified for the modern teen; and it can easily take on a life of its own in the form of personal attack that sometimes convinces you that you cannot survive, or worse yet, that there is no point in surviving it. Did you have an arch nemesis in middle or high school? What would she have done with an Instagram or Twitter account?
An anonymous teacher said it beautifully: “There are more bad apples and many more swing voters.”
Sunday, March 2nd, 2014
So let us be clear. Worrying is not the same thing as caring because it is the product of fear, not love. And worry is in my opinion the most toxic temptation of the modern parent given the truly perilous network culture that encompasses the modern childhood.
Wednesday, November 13th, 2013
Six or seven years ago I came across a prophetic quote from an anonymous teacher regarding the emerging new norm of student conduct in the classroom:
“There are a few more bad apples in the classroom, and a lot more swing voters.”
These swing voters are more commonly known as bystanders who stand for nothing. Bystanders allow simple acts of rudeness, cruelty and hostility to disturb the peace, making it difficult to learn whether it be in the classroom or on the sports field. Bystanders allow the escalation of hostility powered by texting and social media that convinces a child that there is no surviving it.
Wednesday, November 13th, 2013
...The voices in this edition offer practical perspectives and ways to demonstrate good faith with our children dealing with the modern issues growing up in a cyber-powered world including maintaining open parent-child communication, overcoming distraction and learning issues, recovering from risky choices, bonding in single parent households and blended families, and empowering children to create a peaceful society.
Monday, October 28th, 2013
Human beings are feeling creatures who think. So whether we intend to or not, every one of us eventually winds up offending others or being offended by others. It is a big part of the human experience. So forgiveness is critical for cyber safety because without it a hostile spirit prevails in our children’s cyber-powered peer communities as resentments become expressed as bullying, and children keep risky secrets (such as being bullied or exploited).
Below are some points to help clarify forgiveness as a family value:
Tuesday, September 24th, 2013
In a post to TheTimesNews, parenting expert John Rosemond responds to a recent news story about a 13-year old Washington state boy arrested for making threats to blow up his middle school and kill a teacher, and Rosemond criticizes a mother who when interviewed by the news expressed pity for the boy and shared that her own grade school son became very anxious when she told him about the incident.
And while I have great respect for Rosemond’s work, what struck me as curious about this particular article was how “out of touch” the tone and delivery of his conclusions seem to me. The idea that parents simply needed to protect the naiveté of their children, and that the boy who made terrorist threats deserved no pity, that he is essentially a criminal, does not resonate for me as a relevant application of faith and discipline for the modern family.