Behold your own beauty by taking ownership of your mind

Sunday, March 2nd, 2014

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Mary Lisa Patton, CADC-II, ICADC, offers counseling and community support for women overcoming substance abuse, eating disorders and codependency.

Mary Lisa Patton, CADC-II, ICADC, offers counseling and community support for women overcoming substance abuse, eating disorders and codependency.

If you or someone you know would like to gain some skills in developing the beauty within to overcome substance abuse, eating disorders and codependency, you are invited to attend a weekly counseling group facilitated by Mary Lisa Patton, CADC-II & ICADC,  for  women. It is an opportunity to experience growth and healing resourced by discussion, support, special guests and the curriculum How to Rewrite Beautiful by Irvina Karanak.  Each participant will have an opportunity to discover and live out the beauty within as your personal strength and with the encouragement and support of a safe community.

Below Mary Lisa explains how taking charge of your own mind is required to behold your own beauty, and be free from the unjust criticism of the world.


We must stand firm daily in what we enjoy and embrace to be beautiful.  We live in a culture constantly presenting its views and perspectives of what beauty is. We are bombarded through social media, magazines, peers, with their definitions/opinions of beauty, perspectives often driven by greed and power. These can distract us from experiencing what we truly find to be beautiful.

For example, each of us has hopes and dreams. When we present or share these hopes and dreams we may get shot down or criticized. We then may question that what we thought was really beautiful may not be so much after all. We are then tempted to conform to the hopes and dreams of others versus holding on to what we truly believe and living in a way to reach our chosen destiny.

I have come to embrace and accept that being short is beautiful. I have needed to embrace it and not get distracted if someone else likes taller people. If I start believing that only tall people are beautiful I will be unhappy with my height and spending money I don’t have to buy a closet full of 6 inch stilettos. As I embrace who and what I am, life can be lived with greater health and optimism.

Some people love ice cream others prefer a pie for dessert. One isn’t right or wrong, they just have a preference. One person may be sad over an animal dying where another isn’t as passionate about animals and may cry at the lack of human affection. As we learn to embrace/accept our gifts, talents, likes and dislikes, we are freed up to embrace all the beauty that we are and enabled to more freely give ourselves to the world around us.

Trapped by another’s definition of beauty or expressing the beauty that is you?

You choose.


  • Contact: Mary Lisa: 530-270-9294
  • Office: 270 Reserve Drive, Roseville, CA 95678

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Joanna Jullien (Photo: Christi Benz)

Joanna Jullien
(Photo: Christi Benz)

Joanna Jullien is an author, educator and speaker on strengthening the parent-child relationship in a cyber powered world. She is a mother of two grown sons, the author of The Authority In Me: The Power of Family Life in the Network Culture, produces The Sacramento Cyber Safety Examiner column on, and is the CyberParenting advisor on The Fish 103.9FM. Her new book, A Google World in the Garden of Eden: Five Family-Safe Strategies for Texting and Social Media is now available for PC and all eReader formats including Kindle, Nook, iPad.

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About Joanna Jullien

Joanna Jullien

Joanna ( and her husband have raised two sons in Roseville, CA. She has a degree from U.C. Berkeley in Social Anthropology (corporate culture). Her honors thesis was awarded the Kroeber Prize and funding from National Science Foundation grant. Joanna writes to help parents with the modern-day leadership challenges of raising children. She is a contributing writer for The Granite Bay View, the Press Tribune, the Sacramento Examiner, and editor of Banana Moments.