Hopeless in America: Why parents are afraid to let kids grow up

Saturday, December 12th, 2015
A recent article by Naomi Schaefer Riley in the New York Post features the lack of parental confidence in a child’s ability to be responsible for their own security as a type of schizophrenia that looks something like this: little girls are wearing sexy Halloween costumes while college students are calling parents daily to make basic decisions about class courses and campus life. The article points to an “amorphous fear” of a culture that is not geared toward protecting children.

Tips to help teens find their identity & fit into the social network

Sunday, November 1st, 2015
Featuring his new book, Hurt 2.0: Inside the World of Today's Teenagers, Clark addressed the social, cultural and biological dynamics of growing up in today’s world and offers insights for parents whose own development experience cannot compare.

Grace-filled parenting in the chaos of the social network

Sunday, May 24th, 2015
We live in a world responding to laws and devices and yet they do not possess nor extend grace which comes from the heart. Grace is what makes it possible for us to learn how to love and be loved; to nurture the soul. This kind of communication is sacred and cannot be faked. And yet, in the network culture, there is a great confusion on the authority inherent in roles such as parent, coach, and educator. Parents seeking to become friends and coaches are at risk of abandoning their role in the home, which is to prepare and encourage their children to engage authority figures in the world with clarity and confidence of purpose, respect and compassion for one another. It is the power to forgive the control issues of the world that disturb our peace, amplified by cyber connectivity (think cyberbullying and sexting).

How to explain monitoring your child’s texting and social media as love language

Monday, July 28th, 2014
When parents accept that they have legitimate authority for providing protective cover for their children, which is not the same thing as controlling them, then it is possible to express your passion for the child’s God-given liberty to think for himself. And because we are not in control of our child, rather the child is in control and must learn how to use free will wisely, it is imperative that boundary setting and parental oversight is expressed as passion for individual liberty to choose to obey boundaries that keep us free to prosper; it is loving your child as God does.

Is being ‘facebook friends’ with your young adult child too much information?

Monday, May 12th, 2014
A recent Mother’s Day headline features five reasons to be friends with your mom on Facebook. The article basically argues that it is a good thing to “friend” your mom because Facebook moms are cool, after all they are using social media. And they want to know what is happening in your life and enjoying looking at the pictures of friends and what’s happening in your world. Also she worries so she needs to be informed, and most importantly you never call her anyway and it’s cheaper than a plane ticket. So why not?

How your child’s social media posts can hurt you and what to do about it

Monday, March 10th, 2014
The harsh reality that cyber communications are not private is a challenging concept to get across. We don’t see the open, boundary-less nature of the network communications; we don’t normally calculate the myriad of circumstances that conspire to share information intended only to a few.

You can monitor your child’s social media without becoming a ‘stalker’

Monday, February 24th, 2014
Social media introduces another dimension of freedom and risk for children that require parental guidance, yet the perception is that cyber communications are private. Children can easily be offended when parents become involved. And this is a problem because if the child is offended, he or she can choose to create alternative social media profiles in order to keep their on-line life a secret from you.

Is being right more important than your relationship with your child?

Saturday, January 18th, 2014
My two cents: Being right is not more important than your relationship with your child. If you are primarily concerned about being right, then you risk alienating your children which makes imparting wisdom nearly impossible. It is possible to correct your child with a merciful heart. Sometimes your child may need to forgive you for being right, because he is offended by the truth. When that happens, invite your child to think about forgiving you for doing your duty or being "right", thus leaving the door open for more conversation and learning something about one another. ... Habakkuk 3:19 The Lord God is my strength, And he will make my feet like hinds’ feet, And he will make me to walk upon mine high places.

A Google World in the Garden of Eden

Tuesday, June 4th, 2013
Convergence of technology would certainly guarantee that whoever has the mobile device holds the world in the palm of their hand. And we have seen that wireless mobile devices are produced in a variety of forms, shapes and sizes for all ages as we have seen iPods, notebooks, iPads and smart phones deliver an endless supply of apps that allow communication and photo sharing. My next book, A Google World in the Garden of Eden: Five Family-Safe Strategies for Texting and Social Media, will be released this fall. It addresses the fundamental ways in which parents can govern their homes to engage children as learning executives who make good decisions on and off line.

Parents ‘who rock’ support one another

Tuesday, June 4th, 2013
Photo: modify-evolution via Flickr Here’s the thing about our issues with our kids. It is largely about the parent. As with any other form of leadership, effective parenting that promotes a peaceful and productive home requires integrity and commitment to be the example. It requires discipline, which at first sounds like a ton of time and attention that we don’t believe we have in our hurried, stressed situations. The simple truth is that we are actually wired to overcome adversity, and the modern family is experiencing a lot of it.

About Joanna Jullien

Joanna Jullien

Joanna (jullien@surewest.net) and her husband have raised two sons in Roseville, CA. She has a degree from U.C. Berkeley in Social Anthropology (corporate culture). Her honors thesis was awarded the Kroeber Prize and funding from National Science Foundation grant. Joanna writes to help parents with the modern-day leadership challenges of raising children. She is a contributing writer for The Granite Bay View, the Press Tribune, the Sacramento Examiner, and editor of Banana Moments.

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