On what it means to succeed and be happy

Friday, September 16th, 2016
Children receive a lot of input about what it will take to succeed and be happy. How can we communicate the truth that will help them realize their own potential?

Examining the shame and bully climate impacting modern youth

Wednesday, February 24th, 2016
Do you remember the first time you experienced shame as a child? I do. When I was about seven years old, a neighbor’s child brought out a Polaroid photo of his mother, taken by his father, and showed it to all of the children gathered on the sidewalk. He had found it in her underwear drawer.

Signs that you are a mentally-fit cyber parent

Monday, August 3rd, 2015
While you can establish age-appropriate boundaries it is not possible to have control over your child and the technology, and fearful thoughts can consume a parent (i.e., worrying or micro managing) and can make you un-relatable or hostile which kills open communication essential to cyber safety because kids can easily hide risky experiences from parents. That is why parenting tech-savvy kids requires mental fitness which comes from the confidence of your faith.

De-escalating anxiety about transitions to middle school, high school & college

Thursday, July 23rd, 2015

My two cents

How to love_Fresh StartOne of the most difficult things for the modern parent to accept is that our minor children are actually responsible for their own thoughts and actions, and the sooner we help them realize this the better.  Learning how to be self-governing, requires holding youth accountable for their own actions with forgiveness and grace. This is the discipline of love.

Consequences + Love = Empowerment

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How to recognize & deal with smart phone addiction in your home

Tuesday, June 30th, 2015
So the big question remains: what role does cyber connectivity play in your family life? Does it promote deeper, more engaged conversations to build trustworthy relationships? Or does it isolate individuals in your home leaving children vulnerable to bullying and exploitation? Below are some signs that the cyber technology is managing you and disrupting family bonding experiences essential to build trust, which is what digital natives value more than money.

Teaching your child to overcome cyber-powered bullying

Monday, December 8th, 2014
In a cyber-powered world, bullying can feel unsurvivable, as the incidents of suicide that make the headlines remind us how fragile and strong we are depending upon our state of heart and mind. All of our children are experiencing and witnessing intense bullying in their cyber social realms, as aggressors, targets and bystanders. Here are some tips for parents:

The role of parents in confronting the bully at school

Monday, September 22nd, 2014
Back to school is a time of excitement as well as insecurity and uncertainty. And in the cyber social realm, where it is easy to be mean, the cyberbully phenomenon surfaces as a topic of concern and conversation. While bullying is not new, the level of hostility and persistent invasiveness that mobile connectivity inspires in the social networks our children navigate on and off line is unprecedented. And the children need socialization to help them overcome the lack of empathy that can happen from behind the screen. It is a challenge that has inspired legislation across the nation to make cyberbullying cause for disciplinary action in schools.

Balancing emotion and reason: Taming the mama and papa bear

Thursday, June 12th, 2014
In an article via Mamapedia, a blogger mom, Jenny Ball, expresses her simmering rage in an open letter to an Amway lady who deeply offended her teenage son while he concluded a shift at his supermarket job. The lady was a customer and as he finished bagging her groceries, she made a comment about his acne and then suggested she had a product that would take care of it and left him her card. Personally I recognized this mama bear that surfaced in this blog post. That mama bear lives in me too; and as a mom reformed I routinely redirect that mama bear to her cage. And so I could also appreciate the considerable restraint this angry mom demonstrated not to publish the woman’s contact information as she delivered a diatribe that ascribed misguided and exploitive motives on the part of the Amway lady in question. This mother heart knew intimately how painful that Amway exchange was for her son, which according to her was a kick in the gut to someone who already knew he had an acne problem and was working on it.

Twelve steps for the cyber-powered family: Reclaiming peace

Thursday, June 12th, 2014
Experiences like the trauma of being physically assaulted, abandoned and betrayed, as well as stimulants like drugs, alcohol, cyber technology, sex and graphic sexual images, and gambling can literally re-wire the brain to become dependent upon external sources to “feel good” or seek a sense of normal in response to painful emotion aroused in the realm of heart and mind. The net result (no pun intended) is that you can believe that there is no normal without the external stimulation – and hence there is no peace. In this state of addiction, the ability to self sooth, your personal power, is disabled.

How to disable the undue influence of drugs and alcohol

Thursday, June 12th, 2014
Placer County Sheriff Ed Bonner joins Joanna and Jodie for CyberParenting talk on TheFish Tuesday July 17 Placer County Sheriff Ed Bonner Recently I sat down with Placer County Sheriff, Ed Bonner, to discuss youth trends from a law enforcement perspective. And the top of his mind is that heroin has returned as a very real threat to ravage the youth among us. He was concerned because the addictive nature of this opiate can literally rob life from the child and destroy the family if unchecked. “And it is cheap and easy to obtain,” he said.

About Joanna Jullien

Joanna Jullien

Joanna (jullien@surewest.net) and her husband have raised two sons in Roseville, CA. She has a degree from U.C. Berkeley in Social Anthropology (corporate culture). Her honors thesis was awarded the Kroeber Prize and funding from National Science Foundation grant. Joanna writes to help parents with the modern-day leadership challenges of raising children. She is a contributing writer for The Granite Bay View, the Press Tribune, the Sacramento Examiner, and editor of Banana Moments.

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