Friday, September 16th, 2016
Children receive a lot of input about what it will take to succeed and be happy. How can we communicate the truth that will help them realize their own potential?
Wednesday, February 24th, 2016
Do you remember the first time you experienced shame as a child?
When I was about seven years old, a neighbor’s child brought out a Polaroid photo of his mother, taken by his father, and showed it to all of the children gathered on the sidewalk. He had found it in her underwear drawer.
Monday, August 3rd, 2015
While you can establish age-appropriate boundaries it is not possible to have control over your child and the technology, and fearful thoughts can consume a parent (i.e., worrying or micro managing) and can make you un-relatable or hostile which kills open communication essential to cyber safety because kids can easily hide risky experiences from parents. That is why parenting tech-savvy kids requires mental fitness which comes from the confidence of your faith.
Thursday, July 23rd, 2015
My two cents
One of the most difficult things for the modern parent to accept is that our minor children are actually responsible for their own thoughts and actions, and the sooner we help them realize this the better. Learning how to be self-governing, requires holding youth accountable for their own actions with forgiveness and grace. This is the discipline of love.
Consequences + Love = Empowerment
On August 4 and an encore on August …
Tuesday, June 30th, 2015
So the big question remains: what role does cyber connectivity play in your family life? Does it promote deeper, more engaged conversations to build trustworthy relationships? Or does it isolate individuals in your home leaving children vulnerable to bullying and exploitation? Below are some signs that the cyber technology is managing you and disrupting family bonding experiences essential to build trust, which is what digital natives value more than money.
Monday, December 8th, 2014
In a cyber-powered world, bullying can feel unsurvivable, as the incidents of suicide that make the headlines remind us how fragile and strong we are depending upon our state of heart and mind. All of our children are experiencing and witnessing intense bullying in their cyber social realms, as aggressors, targets and bystanders. Here are some tips for parents:
Monday, September 22nd, 2014
Back to school is a time of excitement as well as insecurity and uncertainty. And in the cyber social realm, where it is easy to be mean, the cyberbully phenomenon surfaces as a topic of concern and conversation. While bullying is not new, the level of hostility and persistent invasiveness that mobile connectivity inspires in the social networks our children navigate on and off line is unprecedented. And the children need socialization to help them overcome the lack of empathy that can happen from behind the screen. It is a challenge that has inspired legislation across the nation to make cyberbullying cause for disciplinary action in schools.
Thursday, June 12th, 2014
In an article via Mamapedia, a blogger mom, Jenny Ball, expresses her simmering rage in an open letter to an Amway lady who deeply offended her teenage son while he concluded a shift at his supermarket job. The lady was a customer and as he finished bagging her groceries, she made a comment about his acne and then suggested she had a product that would take care of it and left him her card.
Personally I recognized this mama bear that surfaced in this blog post. That mama bear lives in me too; and as a mom reformed I routinely redirect that mama bear to her cage. And so I could also appreciate the considerable restraint this angry mom demonstrated not to publish the woman’s contact information as she delivered a diatribe that ascribed misguided and exploitive motives on the part of the Amway lady in question. This mother heart knew intimately how painful that Amway exchange was for her son, which according to her was a kick in the gut to someone who already knew he had an acne problem and was working on it.
Thursday, June 12th, 2014
Experiences like the trauma of being physically assaulted, abandoned and betrayed, as well as stimulants like drugs, alcohol, cyber technology, sex and graphic sexual images, and gambling can literally re-wire the brain to become dependent upon external sources to “feel good” or seek a sense of normal in response to painful emotion aroused in the realm of heart and mind. The net result (no pun intended) is that you can believe that there is no normal without the external stimulation – and hence there is no peace. In this state of addiction, the ability to self sooth, your personal power, is disabled.
Thursday, June 12th, 2014
Placer County Sheriff Ed Bonner joins Joanna and Jodie for CyberParenting talk on TheFish Tuesday July 17
Placer County Sheriff Ed Bonner
Recently I sat down with Placer County Sheriff, Ed Bonner, to discuss youth trends from a law enforcement perspective. And the top of his mind is that heroin has returned as a very real threat to ravage the youth among us. He was concerned because the addictive nature of this opiate can literally rob life from the child and destroy the family if unchecked. “And it is cheap and easy to obtain,” he said.