Saturday, September 24th, 2016
Learning how to love and be loved is like archery lessons that teach us how to cast out fear: aim for the bulls-eye, where the love of God rests and there is peace. Hopefully we are all learning how to become better versions of ourselves, holding one accountable with a mercy and a heart full of hope and faith that the grace of God carries us forward closer to Him when we seek His face.
Saturday, December 5th, 2015
Bob Holmes is a one-man volley ball team who travels the country engaging teens to think radically differently about their value and their future in the face of enormous bullying pressure in their social networks to believe they are small and insignificant.
Saturday, September 12th, 2015
This Tuesday evening, 6:30 p.m., St. Joseph Marello Catholic Church is hosting a parent training on Strategies for bully prevention and intervention at home and school. Free of charge and open to the public welcoming all faiths, this presentation will explore the nature of hostility youth are experiencing in the cyber social realms, feature how to recognize signs that your child may be experiencing or participating in a bully situation, and strategies for prevention and intervention at home and at school.
Monday, April 27th, 2015
The cyber technology shields people from the emotional reaction to cruel statements, and inspires people to lose inhibitions with illusions of anonymity, believing they will never be accountable for the hurtful things that are expressed. Without a disciplined mind, which I understand to be socialization that involves regarding others as important as self; without the training and guidance of parents monitoring communications on and off line to point out examples of how their child’s own self respect and compassion for another human being is devolving into hostile and unloving ways, our children are experiencing an intensely cruel and vicious bully climate in their cyber social realms and in the flesh.
"Go kill yourself. You're a nobody.” – an opening line in a bully letter to a sophomore in high school reported by a Georgia newspaper this month
Wednesday, February 11th, 2015
Your Instagram isn’t you
And don’t expect people to think it is. Please, please, please, don’t define yourself with social media. Your person should not be determined by which of your pictures got the most “notes”, comments, or “likes”. Your person should be determined by the things you do for real, that have a true impact, and the way in which you treat others. I’m going to bring up again that you shouldn’t turn a blind eye on opportunity. The opportunities that you choose to take while you’re not looking at your screen, are the things that will truly define you and the path you’re meant to take. The description you think of for your profile means nothing. Neither does your URL or the people you’re with in your posts. So I advise you to take caution and if you find yourself feeling a little too close to your digital self, take a step back and spend some time on the things that matter. Take extra time to think of your favorite qualities about yourself and enhance them. Maybe improve your in-person communication skills so that people can get a better idea of who you really are.
Monday, January 26th, 2015
...Granting schools access to the social media of a child suspected of bullying may complicate things and create more harm. It would, it seems, make more sense to mandate the parent provide access to the account without giving up the password, so as to facilitate the investigation of an incident and limit access for that purpose alone. If the school’s mandate is to stop bullies because of the threat of lawsuits or career black eyes, and the fearful mindset is to seek control of individuals rather than teaching all students involved to expect accountability with compassion and to seek the justice for all involved, then we are at risk of perpetuating the “blame” mentality which inspires more bullying by the “righteous”...
Monday, December 8th, 2014
In a cyber-powered world, bullying can feel unsurvivable, as the incidents of suicide that make the headlines remind us how fragile and strong we are depending upon our state of heart and mind. All of our children are experiencing and witnessing intense bullying in their cyber social realms, as aggressors, targets and bystanders. Here are some tips for parents:
Monday, September 29th, 2014
There are cyber device settings and apps that parents and kids can deploy as a part of your anti-bully strategy. The aim is to create boundaries in the cyber tools and in your child’s own hearts and minds embrace the correct thinking and actions in confronting a bully mentality. The most important thing parents can do is use these tools to inspire open dialogue about recognizing and responding to mean-spirited, nefarious or unkind communications in the children’s cyber social realm.
Monday, September 22nd, 2014
Back to school is a time of excitement as well as insecurity and uncertainty. And in the cyber social realm, where it is easy to be mean, the cyberbully phenomenon surfaces as a topic of concern and conversation. While bullying is not new, the level of hostility and persistent invasiveness that mobile connectivity inspires in the social networks our children navigate on and off line is unprecedented. And the children need socialization to help them overcome the lack of empathy that can happen from behind the screen. It is a challenge that has inspired legislation across the nation to make cyberbullying cause for disciplinary action in schools.
Monday, April 7th, 2014
I believe the modern child experiences a bully climate in ways we cannot perceive unless we experience it at their age. The drama we experienced as adolescents without cyber connectivity is amplified for the modern teen; and it can easily take on a life of its own in the form of personal attack that sometimes convinces you that you cannot survive, or worse yet, that there is no point in surviving it. Did you have an arch nemesis in middle or high school? What would she have done with an Instagram or Twitter account?
An anonymous teacher said it beautifully: “There are more bad apples and many more swing voters.”