Instagram should be a treat, not an obsession

Wednesday, February 11th, 2015

 Life is Bigger than the Screen – by Julia Shohbozian

Rocklin resident Julia Shohbozian blogs about a life that is bigger than the screen.

Rocklin resident Julia Shohbozian blogs about a life that is bigger than the screen.

Your Instagram isn’t you. And don’t expect people to think it is. Please, please, please, don’t define yourself with social media. Your person should not be determined by which of your pictures got the most “notes”, comments, or “likes”. Your person should be determined by the things you do for real, that have a true impact, and the way in which you treat others. I’m going to bring up again that you shouldn’t turn a blind eye on opportunity. The opportunities that you choose to take while you’re not looking at your screen, are the things that will truly define you and the path you’re meant to  take. The description you think of for your profile means nothing. Neither does your URL or the people you’re with in your posts. So I advise you to take caution and if you find yourself feeling a little too close to your digital self, take a step back and spend some time on the things that matter. Take extra time to think of your favorite qualities about yourself and enhance them. Maybe improve your in-person communication skills so that people can get a better idea of who you really are.

Choose blogs that inspire you

When you do have some leisure time to spend on social media, make sure you spend it perusing through blogs that offer motivational, positive, and creative posts. This way, spending time on your screen won’t be a total waste. Maybe it’ll give you a new perspective or something interesting to think about. Take from these blogs things that will drive you and inspire you to be better in the things you do in real life. The great thing about social media is that it allows for the trade of ideas from all over the world, from all different walks of life. So, when you go through your dashboard, feed your brain! Not everything on social media has to be negative, it’s all about what you make of it. Make it good- try contributing your own ideas and letting people comment and expand on them. Get some other perspectives than your classmates’. I personally like to follow the blogs of university students, their posts are usually diverse and interesting. Their blogs also remind me of my own future and keep me motivated as I move toward it. University blogs may not be the thing for you, but they’re a great place to start. The people who run them have made it to a successful place and are more confident in themselves and happy.

Something I do every night is make a list of things I’m thankful for from that day. If you’re about to get on screen, make sure you’ve done something that you’re thankful for that day.

Get into healthy use habits

Sometimes it’s hard to determine when is the right time and when is not the right time to be on screen. The right times are when you’ve finished with your responsibilities, and when you feel satisfied with your accomplishments for the day. Something I do every night is make a list of things I’m thankful for from that day. If you’re about to get on screen, make sure you’ve done something that you’re thankful for that day. If you haven’t, this is a sign to put down your screen and make something happen! Having your phone, tablet, or computer around 24/7 makes checking out social media at the wrong time very tempting. Trust me, I know, and I don’t doubt that you know this from experience too. I’m going to share some of the methods that work for me to leave my dashboard alone for awhile. Here they are: when you’re on your computer, don’t leave your social media tabs open (or at least have them in a separate window from whatever you’re currently doing). Charge your phone and tablet away from your bedside, so you’re not missing sleep staying up all night on social media. Don’t use your phone to check the time, invest in a watch. Have a no phones or tablets at the table rule. Never have these out when you’re talking to someone or when someone is talking to you. If you’re worried about missing out on “notes” or “likes”, put some posts on queue for the day. Lastly, when you take a picture, don’t worry about immediately posting it on your account.

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About Joanna Jullien

Joanna Jullien

Joanna (jullien@surewest.net) and her husband have raised two sons in Roseville, CA. She has a degree from U.C. Berkeley in Social Anthropology (corporate culture). Her honors thesis was awarded the Kroeber Prize and funding from National Science Foundation grant. Joanna writes to help parents with the modern-day leadership challenges of raising children. She is a contributing writer for The Granite Bay View, the Press Tribune, the Sacramento Examiner, and editor of Banana Moments.

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