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For the love of fathers, husbands, sons and brothers

Thursday, August 18th, 2016

shutterstock_199317464_sad_teen_male-640So by my faith I know that the purpose and power of women in marriages, families and communities, as mothers, daughters, sisters and wives, is to pray for our men so as to fully communicate the love of God expressed in Romans 8:38-39, and by faith equip their hearts and minds with abundant grace, as fathers, husbands, sons and brothers. This can only be accomplished when I ask for divine guidance in responding to the …

The bond that trumps biology is essential to the modern parent

Wednesday, November 13th, 2013
Just as internet connectivity redefined authority as a relational experience creating a power crisis for parents, so too the state of families presents new demands for learning how to love and overcome complex and dynamic challenges. When people express concern for the state of family today, (i.e., more households are headed by single parents or composed of blended families), I am reminded that we should not take for granted biology as being the origin of a love relationship; when in fact, the example of Jesus’ birth is that of a blended family characterized by adoption. In this regard, my faith informs me that God allows only what He also intends to bless us with a path for restoration. So the structural state of the family for me is less concerning than the cultural state of family (hearts and minds) that nurtures the parent-child bond. We live in a parenting culture focused on housing our children in the physical realm while blaming the cyber realm for children’s issues and unrest, when indeed this power crisis is a wakeup call to strengthen family bonds right where we are. And forming family bonds cannot be mandated or legislated. It requires free will. Accordingly, my conversations summarized below with Mike Barnette, offering perspectives about his single and step-parenthood experience, and MiMi Challstrom, an adoptive mother who maintained a relationship with the birth mother, express how the commitment of love transcends challenging circumstances.

Rosemond’s ‘no mercy rule’ for cyber-powered threats may teach the wrong lesson

Tuesday, September 24th, 2013
In a post to TheTimesNews, parenting expert John Rosemond responds to a recent news story about a 13-year old Washington state boy arrested for making threats to blow up his middle school and kill a teacher, and Rosemond criticizes a mother who when interviewed by the news expressed pity for the boy and shared that her own grade school son became very anxious when she told him about the incident. And while I have great respect for Rosemond’s work, what struck me as curious about this particular article was how “out of touch” the tone and delivery of his conclusions seem to me. The idea that parents simply needed to protect the naiveté of their children, and that the boy who made terrorist threats deserved no pity, that he is essentially a criminal, does not resonate for me as a relevant application of faith and discipline for the modern family.

The battle for independence in a collective paradigm

Thursday, June 6th, 2013
If we define citizenship as the quality of an individual's response to membership in a community, then digital citizenship in a free society must incorporate the value of individual liberty and the capacity to “stand alone” at times. So when does being “connected” to the network actually bully the individual to give up independent thought? When the intimidation is so intense that there is only one option: “go along in order to get along”. Eventually independent thought isn’t perceived as an option.

Nicolas’ Garden: Healthy eating app created by kids for kids

Tuesday, June 4th, 2013
Nicolas Come was a picky eater and his Dad, Stephane, didn’t want to make food an issue. “I knew I couldn’t force feed him,” his Dad said. “So I decided to educate him about food and the value of food. We started a garden and he became very interested in food for good health.” Shortly thereafter, Nicolas wanted to start a company to share what he was learning with other children. According to his Dad, Come kept bringing him the laptop asking him for help to start a company. “I am a technologist,” his Dad said, “And he wanted me to build an app.” So his Dad took him to a Hack-A-Thon at the Sacramento Hacker Lab where people with ideas pitch to a crowd of technologists, designers and marketing professionals to solicit support. The then six-year-old Come stood on a chair in front of 200 people and declared that he wanted to solve the health crisis of kids not heating nutritious foods, and declared his vision for an app that would allow kids to share and comment on healthy and tasty recipes. It was clear that he wanted to start a kids’ movement for eating healthy.

Dads and drugs in American life: 2013 Winter Edition of Family Business Quarterly

Friday, March 8th, 2013
As an American mother raised in the 1960's and 1970's I have observed that the role of the father in our culture has been minimized as Mom took on central prominence. Remember the Virgina Slims cigarette commercials, and the campaigns that women can have it all and do it all? If you can do it all, who needs a partner?

The value of fatherhood in America: Are the dads missing in action?

Friday, March 8th, 2013

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Pastor Jonathan Zachariou, Davis Christian Assembly in Davis, California
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The past few months, the topic of manhood and fatherhood has surfaced in my fieldwork – especially in the wake of the school shootings, and the questions raised in the headlines about the mental health of the young men full of murderous rage.…

Dads taking the lead with their daughters

Thursday, March 7th, 2013
Concerned that there is a great need for opportunities for father-daughter experiences where Dads can take the lead and make their daughters feel very special, Clark organized a father-daughter evening called My Princess & Me Dance, which took place last month.

Watch D.O.G.S. – Dad’s on campus

Thursday, March 7th, 2013
Torrey belongs to a group called Watch D.O.G.S., a program launched by The National Center for Fathering. According to Torrey it was founded by two dads who were affected by a school shooting. “They were concerned about the children for many reasons besides the school shooting. Drop out rates, teen pregnancy, and crime rates were all symptomatic of a population of kids who don’t realize they matter; they need genuine attention from men in their lives,” Torrey said.

Koinonia Homes for Teens: Helping foster youth overcome fatherlessness

Thursday, March 7th, 2013

Camilla and Bill Ryland have been making homes for foster youth for over 30 years. Bill is the Administrator of Koinonia Homes for Teens in Loomis, California.

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Bill Ryland, and his wife Camilla, have spent over 30 years providing a family life for foster youth. Today their own children are grown, and they operate the Koinonia Home for Teens in Loomis, California.

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About Joanna Jullien

Joanna Jullien

Joanna (jullien@surewest.net) and her husband have raised two sons in Roseville, CA. She has a degree from U.C. Berkeley in Social Anthropology (corporate culture). Her honors thesis was awarded the Kroeber Prize and funding from National Science Foundation grant. Joanna writes to help parents with the modern-day leadership challenges of raising children. She is a contributing writer for The Granite Bay View, the Press Tribune, the Sacramento Examiner, and editor of Banana Moments.

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