In this “it is all about me” world of texting and social media, children can know way too much for their own good. More importantly, they are easily conditioned to keep the parent out of the equation when they are searching for answers and they risk becoming lost in the faulty-thinking of peer communities that frankly do not respect the individual.

Mary Lisa Patton, BA, CADCI, works with children and families at Therapeutic Solutions 360 in Roseville. “I have noticed that children are getting mobile phones at a younger age so parents can stay in contact with them,” Patton said. “Unfortunately some parents are using the mobile phone as a way to control their children instead of giving them some freedom and room to develop independently.”

In the network, a lie becomes an experience which murders the truth. Why? Because the truth is simple and brings peace, but lies are complex and stir negativity. They attack the individual and disrupt the inner peace.

Lies appeal to feelings which to a large extent make up our experiences. So it is important to teach children to recognize their feelings, and make decisions with their own minds that rely on truth. Let me give you an example from my ancient cyber mom experience.

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In hundreds of conversations with law enforcement, educators and pastors, it is clear that kids are doing things that most of us find “unthinkable” and many parents are caught off guard or remain ignorant.  From sending and receiving inappropriate or sexually explicit photos, gossip, bullying and abusing medications/alcohol, children are exposed to and engaging in activities that are beneath them at earlier ages.

There is no shortage of …

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Are you and your children having conversations about the things in life that really matter?

Children need to believe that rules and boundaries exist because their lives are important; because they are precious and loved. And most importantly because their personal liberty is a product of honoring the correct boundaries.

The correct boundaries reflect God’s love which respects the individual and holds the individual accountable. God has given us the …

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In a cyber-powered world it is easy to believe we can “Google” everything we need to know.  This power to access information is very seductive, especially for young folks as discussed in a recent Birmingham Science City survey about where kids go for answers, and it isn’t parents and teachers.

But we don’t require a study to know this.  Do we?

The bigger question is: …

Indeed the cyber technology powering individuals, homes, campuses and offices has raised the bar for the standard for parenting. Distracted on so many levels away from what really matters, the parent-child relationship is strained.

One of the most important things we can do as parents is not be fearful when dealing with our children’s circumstances. If your child gets into trouble, the most important thing to do is not freak out, so they can have an opportunity to relate to you about it and seek your wise counsel. We first must be able to help our children know they are forgiven, and their poor or risky choices will have consequences which they can endure, and they can stand corrected.

For me the most disturbing part of this topic, and what was revealed on STFU Parents, is how this brand of over sharing by parents demonstrates a lack of respect for children as individuals.

This school year marks the implementation of State of California legislation, AB9, AB746 and AB1156, which updates the education code regarding sanctions against bullying. Who is the bully? — Sunday, October 14, 2012, 1PM in Roseville, at Barnes and Noble….