Archive for the 'Internet porn' Category

Tips to prepare your child for the top 4 internet risks

Tuesday, December 1st, 2015
Christmas time introduces cyber safety concerns for parents whose children are receiving various internet-enabled devices as gifts. And we know that internet connectivity exposes children to adult issues including bullying and exploitation (sexual as well as commercial), so our children must be educated about their own capacity to recognize a lie or a manipulation when they encounter it and respond with confidence. For the most part, cyber safety is a matter of learning how not to engage with or agree with something that disturbs your peace. Accordingly, a post on WebMD featured the top four internet risks for kids. The risks include:

Tips for family conversations about internet porn and sex

Monday, November 2nd, 2015
According to a recent report from Aleteia, at the fall annual assembly of U.S. Catholic Bishops in Baltimore, scheduled for November 16-19, there will be a vote to issue a general statement about pornography as a “pastoral crisis”. The purpose of this general statement is to educate clergy, parents and young people about this crisis for families and society.

A simple truth for tech-savvy teens

Sunday, October 18th, 2015
Yesterday, the Soroptimist International of Lincoln, a community service club, held a Teen Esteem event, which featured motivational speaker, Jenny Williamson, CEO of Courage Worldwide, a Sacramento region non-profit dedicated to restoring the lives of girls rescued from sex trafficking. “First figure out who you are, not what to do. Once you figure out who you are, then your heart will lead you,” she said. “Do what your heart calls you to do.”

Simple steps to teach your child to be cyber-safe with texting and social media

Monday, October 12th, 2015
Every day youth are exposed to the latest digital hangouts – most of it is adult swim, content that features bullying (ask.fm, YikYak), addiction (drugs and alcohol glorified) and exploitation (gratuitous sex and consumer hype). This reality of the cyber realm, this brave new world can be intimidating to confront if you are the parent of a middle schooler. A recent Contra Costa Times article featured awareness with the title: “There is nothing simple about parenting in the digital age”. Well, I beg to differ.

Pedophile who extorted child porn photos from teens is jailed: FBI seeks to identify & help victims

Monday, July 13th, 2015
The victims of this pedophile need to know that their experience with him was a lie that became a real experience and it is only true for them, their identity, if they allow it to be so in their own minds. (Romans 12:2). I pray that the remaining victims are found and are able to receive closure and a measure of peace from knowing that nothing can separate them from the love that comes from the heart of God: Divine Love.

Help your child avoid posting inappropriate photos on-line: There is an app for that

Monday, December 15th, 2014
Last Wednesday the Sacramento Sheriff’s Hi-Tech Crimes detectives arrested a 21-year-old man for possession of child pornography. According to the press release, he had been employed as a recreational aid at a Sacramento region elementary school and after school program. This arrest reminds us that bad actors can appear harmless and go undetected while they are actively searching for victims on and off line. So how can parents protect their children? Detective James Williams, of the Sacramento Sheriff’s Department of Internet Crimes Against Children wants parents to know that predators target youth who are seeking love, affection and attention – for whatever the reason. “The child is searching for something and the predator is targeting this vulnerability,” he said. Williams says that parents ask him about recommendations for spying software, which he does not encourage. “The best approach is a positive one,” he said, explaining that spy software will not solve the problem if you are not involved with your children’s life. “It is easy for kids to keep secrets with the texting apps like Kik Messenger, which is not a part of the texting function,” he said.

Communicating the practical value of virtues to the cyber-powered kid

Monday, October 13th, 2014
It helps to be clear that the conversation with your child is not about you; it is about the child learning how to take command over their own life and you are the primary teacher. You may draw upon your own experience, but do not allow the conversation to digress into your adolescence and childhood. The idea here is to encourage your child to seek conversations with you about how to apply virtues in their life so you can encourage them to seek Wisdom (James 1:5) from the Lord and impart your wisdom.

Talking with confidence about internet porn and sexting

Tuesday, August 26th, 2014
This talk explores ways to have a meaningful conversation with your child about sexual exploitation, and in particular as it relates to internet porn and sexting.

Preparing for internet porn and sex in the social network

Thursday, June 12th, 2014
Internet porn and sexting is about power and control in the realm of hearts and minds; it is about human exploitation which is glorified on and off line in popular culture and in cyber-powered peer communities. These are adult issues because they evoke primal emotion that can be challenging to tame at any age, and our job as the primary teachers is to help children learn how to discipline their own thinking so they can overcome responses to such worldly images and experiences that can make us feel powerless. Moreover, historically, parenting is viewed as a prevention only exercise. Conventional wisdom of popular parenting culture suggests that if we are good parents our children will become model citizens beyond reproach. And yet, the physical and cyber realms of our world introduce the pressure to surrender personal power (i.e, the free will to choose what to believe and then how to respond) with very seductive, convincing, addictive and exploitative agendas of others that disturb the peace and can disrupt our capacity to think with the mind of our greater selves -the divinity within.

How to advocate for the education of the modern child: It’s personal

Thursday, June 12th, 2014
When my sons were in grade school, they each in their own way declared that their academic education was the teacher’s job, not mine. And just as my children were arguing for a sacred division of labor between parents and teachers, I explained with divine confidence that there could be no doubt that their education was ultimately the parents’ responsibility. I cannot say that I understood their logic for declaring their education none of my business, but I do know that it was important for me to form a united front with the teacher, so that my sons would not feel like they were serving two masters. And while I did my best not to assert my personal opinions about their academic performance, the expectation of the children in our home as students was simple: behave and do your personal best. My children knew that if they failed a class, they better still be getting an “A” in citizenship. And for me this was a no-brainer because if they knew how to behave in the classroom, they would capable of learning something if they so choose. Over the past decade, I have observed our system of academic education to be a somewhat emotional area for parenthood as the anecdotal evidence suggests that a college degree is not a panacea what with all the debt financing and a lackluster job market. In a recent New York Times article about whether college was worth it, it is interesting to me that the case was made that in the long run, earning a college degree, despite the cost, is worth it. One of the conclusions this journalist asserts is that college has become what was once the value of a high school degree. I perceive this to be true. I wonder what high school lessons consisted of 100 years ago and if we might find it resembling more college level learning. And by the same token, the benefits from the pursuit of education in any venue is such a personal matter because in order to be truly fruitful, enrolling in an educational institution still requires the individual to apply herself in some meaningful way. The most important thing a child can learn is how to seek and realize their personal mission in life; to embrace a strong sense of purpose to guide them. In this context, some children are college bound and others are not. So how will you receive your child if she decides not to pursue a traditional college education? Is a college degree the only path for her success in life? In this regard, child rearing expert, Madeline Levine cautions us in her book, Teach the Children Well, to be careful about levying a very narrow definition of success for our children because it causes emotional trauma and harm; it is indeed a boundary violation even though we may choose call it love language.

About Joanna Jullien

Joanna Jullien

Joanna (jullien@surewest.net) and her husband have raised two sons in Roseville, CA. She has a degree from U.C. Berkeley in Social Anthropology (corporate culture). Her honors thesis was awarded the Kroeber Prize and funding from National Science Foundation grant. Joanna writes to help parents with the modern-day leadership challenges of raising children. She is a contributing writer for The Granite Bay View, the Press Tribune, the Sacramento Examiner, and editor of Banana Moments.

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