Archive for the 'Honesty' Category

What teens need parents to know about their social media experiences: Loneliness is the new norm

Wednesday, March 23rd, 2016
This generation of teens is the incredibly lonely – a great irony considering the ubiquitous role cyber technology plays in the life of modern teens with ongoing conversations in large networks populated by group photos, shared selfies and “likes” 24 hours a day.

When your child points out your faults, how do you respond?

Thursday, March 3rd, 2016
When my youngest (who is 25 years old today) was 12 years old, he called me into the garage. He had been sorting the recycling. That was one of his incomes in addition to a paper route and walking dogs in the neighborhood. “Oh maaaa-ther!,” he called, in a very whimsical tone. He opened the garage door from the hall in our home, to reveal all of the recycling sorted, and in the very center were all of the empty wine bottles… and there were a lot of them. It is important to note here that I am the consumer of wine in our home. I usually have a glass at dinner and while preparing dinner. He smiled and suggested, “Let’s count them, shall we?”

Why cyber-powered teens need faith & family more than ever

Saturday, December 26th, 2015
Lincoln resident and Life Coach, Barbara Stahl, is an 80-year-old grandmother, with “an interest in how we become who we are”. She has been studying genes and the human brain for a number of years, and offers a “fast forward” according to how current technology, cultural and biology trends are shaping the condition of our world. Based upon the insights she has gained from personal experience and brain science Stahl offers a very compelling epiphany for the future: “adolescents will be running the world.”

Why the modern child feels ‘unlovable’ and what to do about it

Wednesday, May 20th, 2015
...parents experience a type of malware that evolves from a traditional parenting paradigm that says with good parenting the risky traps and adult issues will not beset our children. We are judging ourselves and other parents by the issues or successes of our youth, which further reinforces shame and fear and killing open communication about what is happening on and off line at home. Some of the lies, the malware, that torment parent hearts and minds include:

Talking with confidence about internet porn and sexting

Tuesday, August 26th, 2014
This talk explores ways to have a meaningful conversation with your child about sexual exploitation, and in particular as it relates to internet porn and sexting.

Why discerning what it means to forgive and excuse matters for cyber safety

Monday, August 4th, 2014
Over the past few weeks Jodie and I have talked about bringing clarity to key concepts that help us and our children maintain open communication rooted in truth: private and secret, brave and risky, and trust and faith. Today we are talking about clarifying what it means to forgive and excuse so as to help promote individual resiliency.

How to explain monitoring your child’s texting and social media as love language

Monday, July 28th, 2014
When parents accept that they have legitimate authority for providing protective cover for their children, which is not the same thing as controlling them, then it is possible to express your passion for the child’s God-given liberty to think for himself. And because we are not in control of our child, rather the child is in control and must learn how to use free will wisely, it is imperative that boundary setting and parental oversight is expressed as passion for individual liberty to choose to obey boundaries that keep us free to prosper; it is loving your child as God does.

Balancing emotion and reason: Taming the mama and papa bear

Thursday, June 12th, 2014
In an article via Mamapedia, a blogger mom, Jenny Ball, expresses her simmering rage in an open letter to an Amway lady who deeply offended her teenage son while he concluded a shift at his supermarket job. The lady was a customer and as he finished bagging her groceries, she made a comment about his acne and then suggested she had a product that would take care of it and left him her card. Personally I recognized this mama bear that surfaced in this blog post. That mama bear lives in me too; and as a mom reformed I routinely redirect that mama bear to her cage. And so I could also appreciate the considerable restraint this angry mom demonstrated not to publish the woman’s contact information as she delivered a diatribe that ascribed misguided and exploitive motives on the part of the Amway lady in question. This mother heart knew intimately how painful that Amway exchange was for her son, which according to her was a kick in the gut to someone who already knew he had an acne problem and was working on it.

Twelve steps for the cyber-powered family: Reclaiming peace

Thursday, June 12th, 2014
Experiences like the trauma of being physically assaulted, abandoned and betrayed, as well as stimulants like drugs, alcohol, cyber technology, sex and graphic sexual images, and gambling can literally re-wire the brain to become dependent upon external sources to “feel good” or seek a sense of normal in response to painful emotion aroused in the realm of heart and mind. The net result (no pun intended) is that you can believe that there is no normal without the external stimulation – and hence there is no peace. In this state of addiction, the ability to self sooth, your personal power, is disabled.

Social media etiquette for parents

Monday, April 21st, 2014
One of the most important things parents can do to keep their children cyber-safe is maintain a relationship defined by open communication, which requires a culture of transparency and respect for personal boundaries. And yet a lack of parenting social media etiquette discourages open communication, and can encourage your child to create secret, alternative media presence using alter egos and different apps. Below are a top ten list of parenting social media miss-steps which the Daily Mail recently published.

About Joanna Jullien

Joanna Jullien

Joanna (jullien@surewest.net) and her husband have raised two sons in Roseville, CA. She has a degree from U.C. Berkeley in Social Anthropology (corporate culture). Her honors thesis was awarded the Kroeber Prize and funding from National Science Foundation grant. Joanna writes to help parents with the modern-day leadership challenges of raising children. She is a contributing writer for The Granite Bay View, the Press Tribune, the Sacramento Examiner, and editor of Banana Moments.

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