Archive for the 'Entitlement' Category

How families are made on purpose, for a purpose

Thursday, August 25th, 2016
...Families are formed on purpose, for a purpose: to defend love in the face of evil in the world by educating one another through Wisdom, not by worldly knowledge and controlling motives...

A simple truth that empowers youth to be cyber-safe

Sunday, April 3rd, 2016
Acknowledging that parents naturally want to raise their children to share their values and make good decisions, Tehran writes: “But what parents need to know is in order to stay relevant in their children's lives, they need to relinquish some of that control they so greatly crave.” So the question remains, how do parents relinquish control and still be a responsible parent?

Is social media encouraging your teen to be a consumer or build wealth?

Saturday, January 9th, 2016
Last Monday, Marie Hall, co-founder of Living Smart Foundation in Carmichael, facilitated a personal finance workshop for teens and young adults entitled, Head Start to Money, at St. Joseph Marello Catholic Church in Granite Bay.

Response to trauma: Resilient parent, resilient child

Monday, February 16th, 2015
A near death episode in 1990 caused Dr. Joyce Mikal-Flynn, an instructor at the California State University, Sacramento, to confront the actual death of her previous life and then she chose to begin anew; something inside her changed. Her motivation and mission for life transformed as she focused more on family and less on career and pursued academic inquiries to understand near death survivors and what she calls "enhanced survivorship". Her book Turning Tragedy into Triumph: Metahabilitation: A contemporary Model fo Rehabilitation (2012), describes the stages anindividual goes through to find their power:

Relating to children hooked on devices

Friday, December 26th, 2014
Indeed relating to the modern child, (who is more worldly and empowered by the feeling of validation in a tap-and-click world), requires more proactive thought, reflection and conviction about your personal worldview. In generations past, the social norms for civilized conduct and compassion for fellow human beings were generally supported by the wider community norms and children were socialized at home and school accordingly. Today, the modern culture of entitlement amplified by internet-powered connectivity blurs the boundaries for personal responsibility and security.

Why the truth matters in your child’s pursuit of happiness

Monday, October 13th, 2014

Welcome to the 2014 Fall Edition of Banana Moments Family Business Quarterly

Joanna Jullien (Photo: Christi Benz)

Joanna Jullien
(Photo: Christi Benz)

A recent Mashable article features a young man who made the choice to drop out of school and pursue a career as a professional video game player and then stunned his parents by earning enough money to pay the rent, other bills and have a little left over for some luxuries. For now, this is a career that …

Parenting free will: Dealing with power and discipline issues

Monday, October 13th, 2014
On Tues. Oct. 21 and again on Oct. 22, Rocklin resident Peggy Harper Lee , author of Spoiled: Fresh Ideas for Parenting Your Entitled Child at Any Age (2012) , will be speaking at St. Joseph Marello Catholic Church in Granite Bay about the skills to overcome the power and discipline issues with children of all ages. Lee, a mother of five ages 32 to five, developed the material for her book from her financial consulting practice. She found that many of her client’s financial issues were related to the expenses associated with entitled children of all ages. “Parents today are from the ‘achievement’ generation,” she said, “And so there is a tendency to blur the parenting and child lanes in order to accomplish personal goals.” The net impact can be the formation of a disabling dependency wherein children depend on someone else to be responsible for their lot in life, which is compounded by the network culture that features instant gratification centered on self. Some examples include failure to launch, as adult children lack the motivation to find a way to make it on their own; and expectations that parents will pay for the desires the child cannot afford or for which he is not willing to work; to resistance and hostile reactions to expectations to helping around the house and doing homework.

Making a peaceful society 101: Ferguson revisited

Tuesday, September 9th, 2014
The pursuit of truth is difficult when emotions are high and this is especially true in the social network. Cyber-powered connectivity can intensify the temptation to rush to judgment without all the facts and it is difficult to maintain a perspective informed by the aim to pursue justice before the pursuit of truth has even begun...

Explaining the value of patience in a tap and click world

Monday, August 18th, 2014
The tap and click tablet, internet-enabled world conditions us for instant gratification. How many of us become impatient when an application takes too long to process a command? Yep. Thirty seconds can feel like an eternity. In the cyber social realm impulsivity, a lack of patience, can lead to aggressiveness and a bully climate when our personal expectations are not immediately met or when we are displeased or disturbed. Let’s face it, in a “me”-centered world there can be no peace.

What does it mean to be an adult?

Wednesday, April 23rd, 2014
For me, becoming an adult is a work in process. Learning and Knowing how to be happy and finding joy in life is one of the biggest factors for becoming an adult. I think this quote says it all. Happiness isn't about what happens to us - it's about how we perceive what happens to us. It's the knack of finding a positive for every negative, and viewing a setback as a challenge. If we can just stop wishing for what we don't have, and start enjoying what we do have, our lives can be richer; more fulfilled - and happier. The time to be happy is now! Here are some great opinions of people of all ages who have answered this question.

About Joanna Jullien

Joanna Jullien

Joanna (jullien@surewest.net) and her husband have raised two sons in Roseville, CA. She has a degree from U.C. Berkeley in Social Anthropology (corporate culture). Her honors thesis was awarded the Kroeber Prize and funding from National Science Foundation grant. Joanna writes to help parents with the modern-day leadership challenges of raising children. She is a contributing writer for The Granite Bay View, the Press Tribune, the Sacramento Examiner, and editor of Banana Moments.

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