As a child speaketh, so he shall be treated in the network

Saturday, June 29th, 2013

Now more than ever our children need to learn early that the mastery of self, the thoughts we choose, express and act upon is our source of personal power and have consequences. (Photo: jail cell picture by ABN2 via Flickr)

2013 June Monthly Round Up: Banana Moments

A recent headline features Justin Carter, a Texas 19-year-old teen who, in an argument last February about an on-line game called League of Legends, made a sarcastic statement on his Facebook page saying he was crazy and planning to shoot up kids at a school.  A Canadian woman noticed his post and reported it to the police; and Carter, who lives near an elementary school, was arrested and is in jail for making a terrorist threat.

He faces eight years in prison.

The Sandy Hook Elementary school massacre perpetrated by Adam Lanza in Connecticut last December has heightened zero tolerance for statements threatening violence. Public perception has hardened around a belief that people do what they say, especially when it comes to statements about violence.

According to the report, Carter’s dad wants parents to know that social media is not a playground.

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Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Philippians 4:8

Even more importantly, I have observed over the past decade that the general perception about modern parents is that we are not capable of instilling the discipline necessary to prevent more Adam Lanzas from showing up on school campuses.

A generation ago it was a more simple matter.

Parents were “the law”.  Children caught doing stupid things that were illegal and risky, such as vandalism, burglary or experimenting with drugs and alcohol would be turned over to their parents because there was an expectation that appropriate consequences would be imposed to correct their conduct. (For more on this topic, see The Authority In Me, Chapter 7).

“A man’s mind may be likened to a garden, which may be intelligently cultivated or allowed to run wild; but whether cultivated or neglected, it must, and will, bring forth. If no useful seeds are put into it, then an abundance of useless weed seeds will fall therein, and will continue to produce their kind.”
James Allen, As a Man Thinketh

Now more than ever our children need to learn early that the mastery of self, the thoughts we choose, express and act upon is our source of personal power and have consequences. Hence the cyber safety fieldwork, research and guidance of my practice as an author and educator are centered on the security that comes from within. Parenting now more than ever is a matter of relating responsible use of personal power; it is inherent authority that is expressed as civil liberty in the founding of the republic of the United States.

Look for my next book, A Google World in the Garden of Eden: Five Family-Safe Strategies for Texting and Social Media, to be released in the fall.

“Self-control is strength. Right thought is mastery. Calmness is power. ”

The summer edition of Banana Moments: Family Business Quarterly will feature how to relate matters of mind over matter so children can be self-governing at earlier ages, on and off line.

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Parent Support Group – Parents Who Rock Meet Up

Thursday July 11, 2013 at 6:30pm — Mimi’s Café in Roseville

Topic: Helping parents and children use their best minds

Speaker: Julie Anderson

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Joanna Jullien
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Joanna Jullien is an author, educator and speaker on strengthening the parent-child relationship in a cyber powered world. She a mother of two grown sons, the author of The Authority In Me: The Power of Family Life in the Network Culture, produces The Sacramento Cyber Safety Examiner column on Examiner.com, and is the CyberParenting advisor on The Fish 103.9FM, Tuesdays. Her next book, A Google World in the Garden of Eden: Five Family-Safe Strategies for Texting and Social Media will be released in the fall 2013.

 

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About Joanna Jullien

Joanna Jullien

Joanna (jullien@surewest.net) and her husband have raised two sons in Roseville, CA. She has a degree from U.C. Berkeley in Social Anthropology (corporate culture). Her honors thesis was awarded the Kroeber Prize and funding from National Science Foundation grant. Joanna writes to help parents with the modern-day leadership challenges of raising children. She is a contributing writer for The Granite Bay View, the Press Tribune, the Sacramento Examiner, and editor of Banana Moments.

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